My challenge was slightly different !!As my finances recovered I started looking at the outside of my property. Gutters that needed doing, a large piece of lawn that needed returfing, a conservatory that needed replacing and piles of wood that needed chopping up for my woodburner.
Gutters first as I couldn''t reach them without removing old conservatory so demolition came first. Then gutters.
The conservatory came as a kit but NO instructions.It had to be laid out as a kit on the lawn and sorted to give me an order to work in.
I made it a rule that nobody was to help unless absolutely necessary. That included shifting a huge beam up to roof level which I could hardly lift. Where there is a will there is a way !!!
The only other help was to lift a heavy double door unit and to lift the huge sheets of roof glass.
In total it took 8 working days to finish and that included internal flooring and lighting. It was the hottest part of the summer and I was sweating one pint of squash an hour !!
I saved approx £5000 doing it myself and with the turfing and tidying easily put £25k on the value of my property !!!
Ah,my take differs to you all
(just goes to shoe how weird I am)
When all this divorce malarky kicked off,I did not know what day it was,or planet I lived on.
So when a little stronger I set myself a challenge,that was to find myself again,the person I was before I met him(albeit an older version)
This was the challenge that would best serve me and my future.In doing so I have let go of the past,sometimes resentment and anger flares up,but this is very rare,it is what it is!
The one thing that does upset me,and nothing I can do,is the relationship that my eldest has with her Dad...Non existant,but that''s her choice,and I have to respect that....
Now I am at the place I think I need to be,comfortable with me...
The stuff I want to do now AHH,
All part of a massive learning curve,
As we learn to walk,to write,to drive..
We find new things to learn..
Most of us on wiki have faced our biggest challenge,we took on the D word..