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Do all women do this......?

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12 May 14 #433092 by happyworker
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(Or men) - 2 years divorced and 4 years into the new relationship, living together for one year and all going exceptionally well, we are and always have been "dialled in" to each other.

Of late though I have noticed the odd £20 note disappearing from my wallet. At first I thought it was me but last night after having been to the cashline I am definitely £20 short and a quick look in her purse confirmed a new note in there.

Me ex used to take money out without asking but my kids never did.

She earns a good salary, I provide for 75% of the household costs so I wonder why?

I now need to decide how to deal with it as it has shattered my trust in her, if I knew it was normal or regular I suppose that might help?

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12 May 14 #433096 by Hollyxxx
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Hi,

I don''t think thats normal or ok :(, hope you get it sorted out.

Hxxx

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12 May 14 #433130 by Vastra1
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I agree with Holly, I was married 18 years and if I was short of cash I would ask or at least let my STBX know if I''d had to borrow some money out of his wallet or drawer.

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12 May 14 #433132 by happyworker
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Thank you,that helps.

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12 May 14 #433134 by hawaythelads
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If only they did.....I wish it was only £20 the ex harridan stole £300000 off me :huh::blink::P

All the best
HRH x

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12 May 14 #433138 by emeraldbutterfly
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Hi Happyworker,



Certainly not, well not here anyway,agree with Holly and Vastra.


If ever the need arose it was always asked for on both sides there was never a problem with that.or it was mentioned that it had been taken out of the communial pot.
I think its just manners and trust hope you can approach the matter and get it sorted.

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12 May 14 #433140 by sulkypants
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No we don''t I think it''s time you talked to your partner and find out if they have a cash flow problem.

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