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The years ticking by .....

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02 Jun 14 #435498 by Caley
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Hello all
Something about the break down of marraige I didnt anticipate.
(For those of you who dont know , husband left when I was 47, due to a secret affair going on 10 yrs, until discovered).

The reason I bring the subject of age up is because..

Yesterday a work colleague came over to ask for advice,
he was mid telephone conversation so relayed scenario to me.
He began the conversation by saying,
I have an old woman on the phone..
I first asked, How old is she ?
He said '' 49 !!
(I was to say the least... taken aback .. )
I laughed, and enquired '' how old are you .... (as he was no spring chicken) he is 45 !!

I know all we have different ideas about age, how old is old,
you''re as old as you feel etc etc but what did come to mind was
It has taken me 5 years to get to where I am, to recover, to be of reasonably sound mind again etc but I realise I am also now that much older.

I wonder what your thoughts are, it isn''t something I thought about until my '' young '' ( laugh out loud ) colleague made me think.

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02 Jun 14 #435508 by Fiona
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I was 45 going on 70 when we separated. Now I''m 61 I don''t feel any different from when I was 21, apart from a few aches and pains.;)

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02 Jun 14 #435514 by JTee
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I hated the idea of turning 40 when i was 39 was a horrible 2 years inside my head but since i turned 43 last year apart from this divorce thing going on making me feel like crap everyday i feel really quite young i dont know if other people look at me like that lol

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02 Jun 14 #435521 by MrsMathsisfun
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Age is definitely a state of mind rather than number of years cocked up each birthday!

Just had a significant birthday and feel more confident and secure than I ever have.

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02 Jun 14 #435524 by afonleas
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Over fifty I get some benefits,cheaper insurance being one,but the best one is retaliating to stupid remarks like the one you heard:) :angry:
I am now of an age(cough cough)where if I disagree with something I feel totally confidant in myself in letting another know.
I don''t have to pander to the latest must have''s,I have what I want when I need it.The skills I have or have not learned over the years have stood me in good stead,so yes not doolally yet...
Age is definatly only a number,up to your mind how old it feels,sometimes I feel ninety,but 3 weeks ago whilst on a night out,I thought I was twenty again,but my God did my joints need lubricating the following Day:woohoo: :woohoo:

Luv and cwtchs
Afon Xxx

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02 Jun 14 #435526 by Hollyxxx
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Hi, age is only a number you have teenagers and people in their 20s who act like they are in their 50s or 60s, then you have people like me 50 who act and feel like they are in their 20s:laugh: xxxxxx

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02 Jun 14 #435530 by Caley
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We have a group night out planned,
not sure if I should mention the incontinence pads :)) :))

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