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10 Jun 14 #436350 by Hejofl
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Sorry it''s a rant!

Many years ago in fact 8 years after I married him, I found out my STBX had never taken a driving test and so was trundling around the UK working totally unlicensed.

The only reason I found out then was because he was caught speeding (38 in a 30) and once they had caught him then it all came out!!

He even worked for the same company I did driving a company vehicle...perhaps that''s why they sacked him...my manager never told me why he had been given the boot and my ex told me it was because of a mis-demeanour when doing a stock take.... apparently it was supposed to be done at mid-day on this particular Saturday and he did it in the morning...call me dumb or what??

It went to court and was initially adjourned because of some technical error on the part of the police/dvla but then rescheduled and again kicked out for some error on the part of the CPS....from his point of view Phew!!!

Well as a good wife would I stuck by him and said we would get him his test passed but then our relationship began to break down.

He had his 4th affair whilst I was pregnant with our second child and on the night she was born slept with the OW!

I suffered post natal depression and spiralled deep into a very unhappy place....I found out about his affair with this OW the night before our baby''s first birthday...I was devastated as I had just pulled myself out of this depression only to find myself vulnerable again.

Due to my depression and finances whilst I was on maternity leave he never did take his test although he told me he had gone on a crash course and was away for a whole week...god only knows where he actually was...well we can probably guess!!

Back to the main story, after we split he went to live with his 5th affair and she paid his car insurance as apparently his bank account could not have DD''s taken from it..this is quite feasible... they were together a year and she chucked him out, cancelling his insurance and reporting him to the police for driving uninsured.

He got pulled soon after and it went to court, it all came out then that not only was he not insured, he still had no license!!

He was fined £300 and 6 points on the none
existent licence. Since that time he has moved 4 times but my son told me yesterday that the bailiffs had turned up on his door demanding £700 (fine plus their costs) he told them he didn''t have it and they had to take him to court..so they did.

Can you believe he got away with it AGAIN apparently??? All costs wiped and points too..I am told that it was because the chasing letters for payment had gone to his address where he had lived at the time of the offence.

How can this be right???? Is the judge mad allowing an uninsured unlicensed driver back on the road??? Why wasn''t his previous taken into account?

My God..now I have to take stock and think about telling him he cannot drive our children on his weekend, but how am I going to police this...its impossible to do.

If I insist only his new partner picks up children then they are going to make my life hell and inconvenient by saying they can only pick up at say 7pm and that it was my decision etc etc etc,

I have since finding out about this given his registration to the police..nothing has happened...

OMG if it were me I would have had the book thrown at me but would have made damned sure I got that test passed asap!!

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10 Jun 14 #436353 by sulkypants
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Maybe you need to apply to have this written into his contact order with the children he needs to produce valid insurance mot and drivers licence or he has to use public transport.

You will probably have to do a bit more transport if he''s not licences I think his insurance is probably going to be very expensive.

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10 Jun 14 #436359 by .Charles
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The first thing I would do is request to see a copy of his driving licence and valid certificate of insurance. If he asks why, you can refer to the previous history of document offences and that you wish to satisfy yourself that the children are safe and insured.

Charles

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10 Jun 14 #436367 by Marshy_
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.Charles wrote:

The first thing I would do is request to see a copy of his driving licence and valid certificate of insurance.


I would do the same. Madness that he got away with it again. Why dont he just take his test FFS? Some people hay? At least you are free of him. C

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10 Jun 14 #436473 by Hejofl
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Not free yet unfortunately but working on it!

thanks for all the replies and sorry for bending your ears!

:) :)

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10 Jun 14 #436479 by sulkypants
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You have not bent anyone''s ears quite frankly I read your topuc with dismay but not disbelief. The fine for driving without insurance is less than the cost of insurance you can buy a very cheap car taxed and with a valid mot for a few hundred quid. Without a drivers licence if it''s a private sale.

I don''t really comment in relation to child access contact issues I do blather on about everything else though but I do think given his driving record it would not be unreasonable to stipulate if he has to use public transport your children may not be insured if he causes them harm while driving.

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11 Jun 14 #436486 by Hejofl
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True!

Thank you

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