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10 Jul 14 #439236 by juliette0307
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I''d feel bitter because struggling with money is soul destroying.

As for the holiday, i''d encourage him to go: he still needs a relationship with his dad, a break in the sun (or wherever they are going) and not feel bad about going.

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10 Jul 14 #439238 by CakesandFlowers
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I know it''s hard, but letting your son make his own decision is the right thing to do.

If your stbx is living with someone unless you have proof you don''t know what that persons monetary situation is. The fact that her child goes to private school could be be paid for by her/her ex as could the holiday.

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10 Jul 14 #439242 by SadAlice
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He has admitted adultery and we are divorcing on these grounds, so I know they are living together. The OW has no contact with her son''s father so I know that the father isn''t paying for his private school fees. And I know that my STBX is paying all the living costs for her (extended) family in their new home. It''s the whole thing of him choosing to provide them with a decent life while we go without that makes this whole holiday thing so difficult to deal with ...I''m still glad I asked about it and still think your answers are right. His behaviour is unfair, but that''s a separate matter to the holiday.

Many thanks

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