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Taking in a lodger - WARNING

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5 years 6 months ago #459875 by Fed up Dad
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Thanks Marshy.

My employer has kindly approved for me to have counselling sessions for post trauma and they will cover the cost. I am struggling. I am sick with worry about what the outcome could be.

I have informed the police that as a result of his allegation, I am becoming ill and aswell as needing counselling, I have been put back on anti depressants by my GP. It is taking over my life and the worry is increasing. I feel like my home has been completely violated, not only by him but also with the police raid that happened. I am scared to go to bed and when I do, I am having to do a sweep of all the bedrooms, check wardrobes and under the beds. He has made me become so paranoid. You should feel safe in your own home.

I have asked for the interviewing officer to call me when she starts duty tonight although that won''t be until 10pm but I need her to fully understand the impact this investigation is having on me. I really hope they take this into consideration and that this is the reaction of an innocent man that is being wrongly accused.

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5 years 6 months ago #459876 by Daisy39
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Afternoon

Cant begin to imagine how awful this situation must be for you. I''m assuming you''ll have done all the usual safety things changed the locks checked windows etc.
maybe a few days with your parents or friends would help just a change of scenery.
hope you are getting the support you need.

Take care

Daisy

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5 years 6 months ago #459879 by Fed up Dad
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Thanks Daisy,

The locks were changed when I took possession of the property on Monday afternoon. Even with doing that, I am worried sick that he can somehow gain entry again. I know he can''t but I think I have watched too many horror films.

My parents offered for me to stay at theirs for a few nights but my concern is that once I move in with them, I won''t want to go back home.

How can one person can be so cruel and make you feel this way

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5 years 6 months ago #459880 by Daisy39
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sometimes we carnt rationalise why people do these things , because were not like them :)
some time away may help you to become stronger to deal with the situation.
speaking from someone who has a lock on bedroom door and im sure I sleep with one eye open anyway.

Take care

Daisy

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5 years 6 months ago #459907 by sun flower
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Fed up Dad - I don''t know you.....and I am not a huggy person at the best of times.....and this may be forward - but for tonight I am sending you a supportive wiki hug just filled with positive vibes to start to wash away the negatiity in your home (and it will be a home, not a house - this will not beat you in the long run - it will make you value your freedom of such bad behaviour).

This may seem wishy washy and mumbo jumbo but I am constantly amazed how postivie messages from seeming strangers help us through.

So I stand by my ''wishy washy mumbo jumbo'' and send enormous Scottish positive vibes. (They are a wee bit chillier than your normal British Vibes but full of a good dram and porridge.....there''s strength and nonsense in that). I hope it gives you a wee smile. (I''m not as howling mad as I seem!)

Sun flower :)

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5 years 6 months ago #459937 by Crumpled
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Hi just sending you love
This situation you find yourself in must be so traumatic for you .Try and remain positive that it will all come good in the end .
Lots of love cx

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5 years 6 months ago #459940 by teecher
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(((HUGS))) from me too.
Hope this all gets sorted out soon for you-hang in there!
teacher ;)

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