Some of the newer members may not know that Wikivorce has a chat-room; it''s a great place to meet other members, and chat in "real time". You will find people who understand what you''re going through and able to give advice, support and listen to you.
To access the chatroom, click HERE
, the chatroom will then open up in a new window. From today, there will be a member of TeamWiki (the Wikivorce moderating team) in the chatroom between 9am and 3pm each week-day. Pop in and say hello, you will be made very welcome.
Chat was one of the main areas of support for Wikivorce members, and was extremely popular, often there would be over 40 members in the chatrooms in the evenings. It would be great to revive the chat rooms as another area of support and friendship for Wikivorce members.
Is there something you would like to see happening on a regular basis in chat? Perhaps an advice surgery one evening a week, or the return of the infamous quiz nights? Maybe even something completely unrelated to divorce/separation such as a Book Group. Suggestions are welcome!
When I found wiki I was at my lowest,I found support from the forum and private messages.Someone advised me to go into the chatroom,but I was paralysed with fear,stupid I know.Plucking up the courage I finally did,and then my situation immediatly changed.In chat I found people who had been through what I was struggling with,they knew just what to say to me,they were the ones who got me here.In the beginning I found the evenings and nights very hard,I felt so lonely and envisaged everyone out as couples,but the friends I had in chat got me through those tough times.
Those friends are a massive in my life,and I always want them in my life,we have shared many laughs and yes many tears,we have shared advice from divorce to making sponges,all very diverse but all very normal.There have been wiki''s from around the globe who have also joined us(albeit in a different time zone)
Over the last few months chat has gone very quiet,a few of us have gone in and hoping others join us to make it a Social place again,but alas No...
This is a shame,so could we all try to resurrect it again,as Ruby says,it is one of the main ways we can support others.
I know that we have busy lives,and maybe we don''t need the blanket that wiki wrapped around us,but the newbies do need it at the moment.So I will make a concentrated effort to get it going again,and hopefully many others will join me also...
Please...you know me I hate being Billy no mates:laugh:
The chatroom can only work if members use it - this week, members have been popping in, mostly new members who have been glad of the opportunity to chat, or to ask where to find a particular piece of information on the site. It would be wonderful if the members made use of the chat room, and make it into a relaxed, welcoming social place again. Being able to chat with others in real time is such an important source of support, and plays an huge role in rebuilding confidence and recovery from the sheer hell of divorce.
I''m aware that there is an issue with some being able to access the chat rooms as the devices they use to view Wikivorce don''t support the software required to use the chat facility. I''m more than happy to raise the issue with the Big Boss, and source a suitable, all-accessible chat software and lobby for that to be installed on Wikivorce - but I can only do that if there is a strong case to keep the chat facility going. And that means you, the members need to use Chat (or post on this thread saying that you can''t access chat but would like to) and show that the chatroom is a viable, worthy part of Wikivorce, and deserves to be made availble to all members.
I would really love to hear your thoughts on using Chat and if you think it''s worth resurrecting and supporting.
There were a few wiki ''s in the chat room last night,hoping that the new members would join us,but no takers,but I being the nosey beggar that I am saw that their were members online who have used the chat rooms in the past,but who never came in.
There are many of us who chat kept sane whilst our world turned insane,so to those members I implore of you,support us on this one.
Ruby has to justify the finance for a new system,and if there are no takers no finance...
We benefited from having the chat room,so in all fairness we should all make attempts to keep it active.We can all give the odd hour or so to support others,just like others supported us.
I am counting on each and everyone of you to help with this lifeline,and to the new members,please go into chat,I promise you some Laughs,friendship and some hope....
As the saying goes
''If you don''t use it you lose it''
None of us want that to happen:S
When I first separated from my Ex, I thought my world had imploded. I was stunned, hurt, frightened and confused.
And then I found Wikivorce. And then I stumbled one evening into the Chat room.
Oh my. From that moment my life changed. Just a little bit, but it changed. Here I found friendly folk who had either been through the same, or were going through it at the same time as me. They gave me the strength to carry on, to pick myself up, and to get out the other side of the trauma of a divorce.
Many a night, after a stressful day, I logged onto chat and my spirits lifted. The old saying - a problem shared is a problem halved- certainly rang true.
I chatted to people from all over the country (or world, in fact), of all ages, and from all walks of life. In fact the only thing we had in common was the divorce/separation, but that did not matter. We supported each other, gave advice when we could, shared our experiences, and looked out for each other when times were hard. We had some right laughs some evenings. I am not sure what we talked about half the time, but time seemed to whizz by when I was in chat, and many a long evening stretched into the early hours.
Some of those people became very special, and I know I could not have got through my divorce so well without their help.
I am still in touch with about a dozen or so of people I met in chat. Some I have met in person now (at various wiki-meets over the last few years) and others still remain as ''virtual'' friends on wiki, or are now FB friends. But all of them contributed in one way or another to who I am today.
I too think it would be a huge shame if this valuable tool was lost.
Please, please, give it a chance. Give it a go. I know it is a pain that you cannot access it via Ipads (that is why I found myself using it less and less). But until they allow it to be accessible on that platform, we will have to make do. Even if it means dusting off the old laptop or resurrecting a PC.
Come on, folks, it can really make a difference. And if you are going through a divorce/separation, that little difference can be soo important.