I was just wondering if anyone more tech savvy than me ( not difficult ) could help.
Ex has really managed to annoy the kids today. I know it's me he is trying to get at but this affects them far more than me.
The ex set up an iTunes account in his name back in the days when iPods first came out. Then over the years as we all got iPhones and iPads we all used this and it has all our apps and music on it. After a few weeks of game playing - he kept changing the password to her name ( nice ) he has now refused to let myself or the children know the new password and we can no longer update anything.
My son texted him and he has just said we have to set up our own iTunes account now. Does anyone know if this is difficult and if we can swap our devices to a new account ? Also does this mean we will lose all our music and apps ? Or can we transfer them over. The account is all set up on our home computer which he now wants to come and collect. My instinct is to say no.
Have no idea why he is doing this but I can't face another battle.
Any advice on this and how difficult it might be to set up a new account for a computer illiterate idiot would be much appreciated.
I cant help you as im pretty useless when it comes to technology but all I can say is, I know exactly what you mean. My kids were able to sort most of my stuff out as they are older, but it is so frustrating. My stbx controlled everything in our house. even ran the kids bank accounts long after they left home. They both got wise to it and changed log on details but when you dont have all the info its a night mare. Im pretty sure you wont be able to take the downloads over to your new accounts but someone may know different.
all the best, stay strong.
Thanks for the reply itsbeenalongtime, especially as I see from your other post you are really going through the mill with your valuation troubles.
I just spoke to Apple and they were extremely helpful. I am finally leaning to be more proactive at last. I will have to set up a new account and lose everything we have. Hey ho it's not important compared to anything else but the kids are highly cheesed off. We will also need the password to take our devices off his account, so that'll be another £200 solicitors letter.
Still can't really understand why he hates me so much after he had the affair and left. You would think it was me who did it by the way he is acting. How do you not end up hating someone who only seems to want to make life more difficult in anyway he can ? Aargh keep reminding myself I am better off without such a plonker.
I hope you get an answer soon - don't give up and claim some costs back from him, that is just crazy x
Thanks, Iv been on this rollercoaster for over 2 years. There is very little my stbx can do to surprise me now but he still does. Like you, it seems to be me that is the root of this unpleasantness. I also did nothing but love unconditionally.
My poor son has been paying for my google music to enable me to listen to a wireless speaker he bought me for Christmas. I only ever played cd`s that I already had as I thought he had put them on the speaker, 18 months later I phoned him and said " I dont know why I keep getting your google invoice on my computer" he said "no mum its yours" I immediately replied "its not mine, I dont pay for anything like that, Im too afraid to ". Bless him he said "No mum, I pay for it and you can listen to anything you want on it".
Thank go for our children, I dont know where I would be without them.
Oh that's really lovely of your son. I feel such an idiot as I just don't have a clue about anything like this. I feel almost it's my fault for letting the ex control everything for so long and happily going along with it. Never mind hopefully it's not to late to learn !!
I know the kids remind me daily just by being their lovely selves that things will be ok and I am not some evil alien who has wasted the last 18 years of my life. It's so sad it comes to this bitter horrible position when as you say all we did wrong was love them and become an inconvenience.
I still can't believe this has been on going for you for two years. How do you keep your sanity ?
Im not sure I have any sanity but I do know that I am a kind, caring, decent person that would do anything for anyone. The saying, opposites attract, couldn't be more appropriate in our marriage. I`ll say no more.
I know my children love me. My family and friends love me and I will never be truely lonely. The same cannot be said for my stbx. We may not have chosen the path we now find ourselves on but at least we have a chance to proceed in the direction we choose. I am happier and more confident than I was a year ago, but a long way from where I was 3 years ago. We will get off this roller coaster and will be stronger for it.
I fear it will make me less trusting but that`s a small price to pay for my independence. Best of luck, big hgus. X