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2 months 2 weeks ago #513145 by Nellie,the,elephant
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Hi all,
I'm living with my aunt and her boyfriend/partner while I save for my own place but the boyfriend/partner is saying that if I stay overnight somewhere for work purposes then I won't be allowed back to live with my aunt and him. Can he do that? I often need to stay overnight because of the job and distance.
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2 months 2 weeks ago #513147 by WYSPECIAL
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Whose house is it?

On what basis is the boyfriend/partner living there?

Is your aunt aware of what he has said?

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2 months 2 weeks ago - 2 months 2 weeks ago #513149 by Nellie,the,elephant
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Hi, it's my aunts house and they've been together a while, few years. She knows what he's saying and how he uses threatening language and sometimes takes his side but generally stays out of it. I'm paying my aunt rent once a month but havd been on furlough since covid so not been able to save enough to move out yet
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2 months 2 weeks ago #513159 by WYSPECIAL
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If it's her house it is up to her to decide who lives there.

Wouldn't it be better to find an alternative as soon as possible though? It sounds like it is putting your aunt in a difficult situation and sooner or later they are going to ask you to leave and it can't be a very pleasant situation for you either.

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2 months 4 days ago #513336 by Nellie,the,elephant
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I have since found out that they both have a share in the house but I don't know if it's equal shares or how it's split.
I'm trying to get out by saving money and still paying my aunt rent but having been on furlough it's hard to save a decent amount for a deposit somewhere. My savings aren't building quickly enough, unfortunately. I want to get out asap so that I don't loose the relationship I have with my aunt but the question is.......
Can her partner/boyfriend legally stop me staying out overnight for work purposes? He's effectively saying that I can't work, is that legal?

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2 months 3 days ago #513337 by WYSPECIAL
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Can her partner/boyfriend legally stop me staying out overnight for work purposes? He's effectively saying that I can't work, is that legal?


No he isn't saying that and of course he can't prevent you from choosing where you work or stay.

He can however stop you from living in his house.

So he can't stop you going away for work but he can prevent your return.

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2 months 3 days ago #513345 by Nellie,the,elephant
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Ok. Thanks for your help. I'll have to have a discussion with work I think till I'm out of the house.

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