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Getting a good sleep!

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10 years 10 months ago #159497 by DancingButterfly
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Can anyone help by giving me some advice on how to get a good night's sleep? It's getting so bad I'm considering hynotherapy - has anyone tried it? I have tried all the usual stuff; warm bath, hot milky drink, herbal tablets, relaxing music, meditation, tensing and relaxing, breathing exercises, boring books , counting sheep, etc etc. I've even tried sleep patches, with no success. I do a hard day's work, have fresh air, get a bit of exercise (but not too late in the day) and avoid caffeine. Nothing seems to help! (I know I should avoid watching telly and using the pc late at night).

I can doze off okay in front of the telly, but not for long. Then, when I get into bed there's a long, long, night ahead. At least I get some rest but very little sleep. I probably don't need a lot of sleep coz I've always had problems getting off to sleep but I really feel a good long sleep on a regular basis would be very beneficial to my health.

Over to you! (You're probably asleep by now from reading this - sorry it's so long). :laugh:

Thanks.

Chrys

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10 years 10 months ago #159508 by when will it all end?!
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If you can doze off in front of the TV how about gettin a small TV for your bedroom? Turn the lights out, settle yourself in bed and watch TV in the dark. As soon as you feel yourself drifting off turn off the TV with your remote (don't get out of bed!) and hopefully you'll drift straight off...

Good luck x

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10 years 10 months ago #159515 by Deedum
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I have tried hypnotherapy and it can be very good for getting to sleep. They usually make a recording for you to play at home and if you follow the instructions it will help you drift off. They can also help you with deep rooted issues that may be keeping you awake and help you to deal with these.

I have tried a couple and one, a man, was much better for me than the other. Obviously it's who you hit it off with personally, but recommendation is a good start.

Hope it helps.

Also, in the beginning of my separation I spent many nights on the sofa with blankets and my favourite films to help me sleep.

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10 years 10 months ago #159729 by DancingButterfly
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Thank you both for your helpful advice. I may try the hypnotherapy, glad you found it useful Deedum. Take care, and sleep well. Sweet dreams! Chrys

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10 years 10 months ago #160657 by Marshy_
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Hi Chrys. You dont say what the problem is thats keeping you awake. But commonly its related to thinking about things when your supposed to be sleeping. In other words people that divorce lay and worry whats going to happen.

I did a short course on meditation. Not realy a course as such it was just an e-book. It said that your supposed to meditate for 8 mins a day. But I found this technique relaxing and its perfect for when you cant sleep for worrying or thinking about something.

Thinking gets in the way of meditation. And they use various techniques for dealing with this. Becuase meditation is all about accepting whats around you but not taking part in any thinking or doing anything. Except sit still. This is what I do. Its realy simple. And it works.

At bed time, turn out the light and breath in and shut your eyes. Breath out. And concentrate on your breathing. Doesnt matter what part of the breathing. Just pick somewhere. Could be yr chest rising and falling. Could be the breath leaving your mouth. It dont matter. When a thought pops up just drop it. Dont process it. Just go back to concentrating on your breathing. Do this anytime you start to think about something. What this does is signal the brain to start slowing down. And stop releasing adrenaline. This will make your body less tense and you will just drop off to sleep.

Works for me. Try it. C.

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10 years 10 months ago #161150 by DancingButterfly
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Thanks Marshy

Sounds good advice, I will try it tonight. That is my problem of why I can't sleep, thinking too much (and caring too much about people, so worrying about them, thinking about them....). I've tried meditation/relaxation cds but without much success. Sometimes the simple things work best though, so will try it exactly as you suggest and hopefully will sleep well tonight. Hope you do too!

Cheers for that, take care. Chrys

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6 years 6 months ago #425922 by babyhanna
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After divorce I got some sleep problems. Recently was recommended to take Zimovane (Zopiclone) and would like to know if some one here took this medication before?

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