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02 Feb 08 #12646 by heffalump
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I've been married 5 years, have two little ones 4 and 1 and my other half has been unfaithful previously. We've tried working at it, but the reality is my heart isn't in it (i do love him) but the affairs before have really destroyed, i suppose, the relationship we did have. We tried again and our 1 year old is the result.

Yesterday, he said he had "met someone else" but nothing happened physically. I think I believe him.

Anyway, we want a quick divorce to get it over with but can't go for adultery. He used to moan that I didn't show him enough affection/love and the like and I was glad when he was out at work.

Unreasonable behaviour seems to be the way forward.... any suggestions for the reasons?


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02 Feb 08 #12647 by mike62
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See the following thread.


There doesn't have to be outrageous reasons, just enough to show that the marriage has broken down irretrievably and that you as the petitioner could not be reasonably expected to live with Soon To Be Ex.

The examples you give must relate to events in the last 6 months, as any older would be deemed by the court to have been accepted by you.

Also, try not to be too controversial in your reasons - it can be very inflammatory. :evil:Keep things as amicable as possible - it's a long lifetime, and he will always be the children's father.

Best of luck


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06 Feb 08 #13012 by gone1
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I agree with Mike. They dont need to be monumentous reasons and you dont need lots and lots. What often stops the petition dead is when the respondant recieves the petition and sees the reasons in black and white and they contest. Try and discuss what you are going to put on your petition with your soon to be ex. That way it wont be a shock. And you have a much better chance of getting the petition signed and returned. Last thing you want is a delayed petition or worse a cross petition. He owes you that much at least to back you up. Good ones, Chris.

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