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19 Feb 08 #14404 by chillygirl
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How is it so easy to marry, yet so complicated to divorce??

I married in july 06 and left my husband while he was in the police cells for domestic violence towards me in Aug 07.

He doesn;t know where I am and I dont care what he does (though have found out he now has a girl 11 years his junior)

He refused to let me divorce him at first. and in the end he did his own petition (was the only way hed give me a divorce, though I didnt care)

Jan 08 I received the papers, I signed them but put I didnt agree and had left him cos DV. But I didnt defend the case as I want rid of him.

I have heard nothing since, dont know what next (he had a solicitor send the papers, I have no finances for one)

I dont know what happends next, how long or anything?

Our divorce is easy though, no monies or property or kids.

ARGHH
Marry a wonderful man and a year later you are alone, hurt and wondering if you could ever be alone with another man.

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19 Feb 08 #14408 by dukey
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Hello Chillygirl i assume the papers you sighned were the petition and he is divorceing you on grouds of UB, if so and you sent them back you should get a nisi quite soon (could be a month or so) theres no AR to go though so it should be plane sailng (fringers crossed) all the way to the absolute the whole thing can take about eight months with few or no complications alot depends on how quickley your s2bx moves, if he stalls procedures it may take much longer.
Look on the bright side hopefully it will move along nicely and you never know one day you might meet your own Brad Pitt,
dukey

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19 Feb 08 #14409 by mike62
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Chillygirl,

Welcome to Wikivorce. It takes all sorts to make up a world. You will find many different sorts here too. How does love's young dream turn sour so quickly? If only we had crystal balls :laugh:Not all men are abusive or violent. You have been very unlucky. There is hope and when you read some of the other stories here you will draw hope and inspiration from other's experiences, both good and bad.

Time is a great healer, and you are at the start of a journey to find the real chillygirl again. The one that laughs and enjoys life to the full.

You have returned his petition, so the ball is in his solicitors court. If you can't afford a solicitor, no matter - there is a wealth of experience here, just waiting to be asked. You can contact the court yourself, and see what stage the process is at. Read the Wikivorce step by step guide to divorce

www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Step-By-Step-D...de/Introduction.html

Our divorce is easy though, no monies or property or kids.


Easier perhaps. But the emotional damage gets us all! We are all ready to give you a virtual hug, if needed.

Tough time, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Welcome aboard!

Mike

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19 Feb 08 #14411 by chillygirl
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Thanks.
YEs UB it is, one of which I must laugh at, he put "didn;t empty ashtrays often enough for my OCD"

Divorce you on anything hehe, I;d have signed anything though to be free.

8 months? that sounds good!

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19 Feb 08 #14414 by gone1
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Hiya Chilly. Do you know your case number? Have a googlefor your local court. Ring them up and ask to be put thru to the family section. Give them the case number and they will tell you the progress of your case. Its that easy. Good luck, Chris

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19 Feb 08 #14415 by chillygirl
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Thanks Mike.

Cheers Chris, I didn't even think to call the court up.

I'll find the papers and give them a buzz tomorrow!

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