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03 Mar 08 #15611 by Gingerkitty
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Briefly, my X2B has previously had an affair which apparently, so he told me, ended in Dec 07.

I have now been told by a friend that as he is now intending to issue against me for unreasonable behaviour (proceedings yet to be issued by his solicitor), he thinks it is OK to resume his relationship after a 3 month break with this woman.

As the affair has restarted with the same woman, can I divorce him for adultery? I couldn’t before on grounds of adultery, because my knowledge exceeded the 6 month time limit (I knew Sept 06). I ask this because as he has not yet issued I would like to ask my solicitor to get things moving on my behalf immediately and issue for his adultery.

Any advice appreciated.

Thanks. GKx

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03 Mar 08 #15613 by BVG
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Hi GingerKitty,
Before you embark on sols and the adultery route, I think you should look at possible costs of this route. It is quite hard to prove adultery, unless your xtb admits it and signs to say so. I believe just resuming a relationship maybe not quite enough. If you can put aside the emotions of being the wronged party and want to lower costs then go for unreasonable behaviour. UB is much easier to site as he has started living with another woman again. At the end of the day any following proceedings will take no notice of the why's and wherefore's of the divorce.

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03 Mar 08 #15614 by Gingerkitty
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Thanks BVG - If he doesnt issue soon then my solicitor has instructions to Petition him for UB. I believe he has admitted the previous adulterous relationship with this woman to his solicitor anyway.
Unfortunately, he has not got the decency to move in and start living with this woman. He continues to reside in the MH which makes things much worse and a living nightmare. I have lost count of the times I have asked him if he would do the decent thing and move in with this woman. I even offered to help him move and as I know her address I was quite willing to take a car load of his clothes there. Yes, as you can see, emotions do run wild and I want rid of him asap, things just aint going quick enough, I suppose patience is a virtue which I am currently lacking as my emotional head is taking over.
Thanks anyways.

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03 Mar 08 #15615 by Gingerkitty
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Thanks BVG - If he doesnt issue soon then my solicitor has instructions to Petition him for UB. I believe he has admitted the previous adulterous relationship with this woman to his solicitor anyway.
Unfortunately, he has not got the decency to move in and start living with this woman. He continues to reside in the MH which makes things much worse and a living nightmare. I have lost count of the times I have asked him if he would do the decent thing and move in with this woman. I even offered to help him move and as I know her address I was quite willing to take a car load of his clothes there. Yes, as you can see, emotions do run wild and I want rid of him asap, things just aint going quick enough, I suppose patience is a virtue which I am currently lacking as my emotional head is taking over.
Thanks anyways.

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