I've lurked on here a little but have been too much in denial to really get involved. I've come to realise on all the support and kindness I am missing out on.
My current heartache is that x2b and I were negotiating for an amicable settlement and just to go to sols for paperwork. Then suddenly out of the blue he sends a letter to expect a petition from sol under irrec. diff. He has lied about the date I left, which I am worried will jeopardize the contributions I made, and he is threatening to go against much of what was agreed and basically take me to the cleaners.
Negotiations were difficult but going ok, and I really thought we were getting somewhere. All my money is tied up in his house so I've had terrible hardship the last 18 months, just when I thought there might be some resolution, this.
I am terrified he must have something up his sleeve and that I will walk away with nothing.
How do I prove the things I did which have financial value, but aren't cold hard cash, like doing most of the housework, supporting his second business etc?
Thanks in advance, and sorry for such a long post!
Thanks for the breakdown, I have no idea what might be relevant for legal purposes,
We were married for two years when I left (together 7 if that counts)
Negligible pension I would have thought
Not sure what H earns now as was made redundant in 2007, now has new job. Probably around £27k
I was earning £22.5K, soon to start a job @ £30k
I think the home is worth around £160k, mortgage outstanding £100K
House is in H's name and in general I contributed less than H to the mortgage, I generally earned less. I had some periods off work due to depressive illness and whilst studying, also owned 2 properties at points before the marriage and invested some lump sums in the property, paid for the wedding (Haha)etc.
Most of my investments were before we were married, so do they count? Do my financial contributions at this time count?
So confused and to be honest I hate thinking it all so much, am wondering whether to just write the whole lot off rather than make myself ill
On the face of it it does,nt look like he can 'take you to the cleaners'
Hopefully you have some written proof of your financial contributions to help your case. Certainly do not write the lot off as you have said.
Its hard we all know but try and keep your emotions in check and be strong, we are all here having been through the same x
A trip to CAB or a solicitor for some professional advice would not be a wasted trip
With a short marrige such as yours its quite usual "to leave with what you brought" though you wont get back what you spent on the wedding (sorry) the money used to help buy the house money you spent on improvments ecetera i would ask for if he doesnt agrea then its off to court.
Try not to worry you wont "get taken to the cleaners" the court will consider the input from both of you.
I know it sounds silly, but I paid for the wedding /honeymoon on the understanding that this was in lieu of contributing to the mortgage at that time. I also still paid half the bills. Doesn't this count? I feel I've been duped if this is the case!