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Broken heart

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05 Mar 08 #15880 by NOtia
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I was married for 2 years. It was very hard for me to leave my abusive husband since I moved to different continent for him and I didn't have any family and friends around. It will be one year since I left him. I'm in therapy for one year and I'm taking antidepressants for two years. This relationship cost me so much. It left me drained, exhausted and hopeless but it also made me very strong. I went through and survive things I would never think I would. The easy part for me is that I didn’t regret even once leaving him and I don’t miss him at all. In fact I don’t feel anything for him but pity. The sad part is that I lost hope that good men exist and that they would be attracted to me. It doesn’t help that I seem to be "magnet for creepy guys"…I assume that because I'm young single women and I have accent they see me as more vulnerable and they feel free to "hit on me" disrespectfully at times. Other problem is that I'm at the point in my life when my friends and peers are getting married and starting families. That leaves me feeling left out. I feel lonely very often. I'm happy that I got out of the very unhappy marriage but at the same time I lost the hope that happy marriage can happen to me… :dry:

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05 Mar 08 #15886 by dukey
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Hello Notie

Wellcome to our little world i think we can all sympathies with your feelings and thoughts, there are some positives in what you have siad, you left thats good for a start your young with your whole life ahead of you.

Many of us have issues after divorce, can we trust again being a common one, if you want to meet someone fall in love even have a family then yes you need to trust that person and give unconditional love easy to say hard to do?

I can promise you there are decent honest and loveing men out there so dont give up hope its the one thing we always have.

I hope you find your prince and live happily ever after.


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