I am a newbie to the board its been 6 months now since I found my s2bx cheating on me.I found he had cheated for 3 years and had a mistress all that time,while leading a double life, comming home to me, and pretending everything was fine.I am now divorcing him, the decri nisi has gone through and now am waiting for him to sign the next bit of paper for the court so the Decree Absolute can go through.I am on severe disbility benefit and have not worked since the birth of our son (who has special needs),as I developed cardiomyopathy by catching a virus when giving birth.I have overcome that and know that I am strong enough to overcome this horrible time in my life.We had been married for 24 years and I had supported him through some bad times and he me, and I thought that I knew him.One year before he found his mistress(internet dating)we had our marriage vows blessed at his insistance.. strange how things work out eh? I also have one daughter who is almost 18.I am trying to get the money from the sale of our property so me and the kids have somewhere to live, as I can't manage to look after this biig house on my own.He is living with her in a small reneted flat with her 31 year old son.She is a granny and much older than me.I find it hard to see what the attraction is as she doesn't work either,or the son.I just thought he was having some mid life crisis.I just know I am worth more than this and being lied and cheated to is no basis for a relationship, I'd rather be alone than put up with it.It now seems all my hopes and dreams for the future were not shared only he forgot to tell me.
Thank goodness for sites like this when I don't feel so alone.
Hi, i am pretty new to this site and glad I found it. My husband cheated for 15 months and also led a double life. We had been together 20 years. I have been told it will get better and we have to believe that. It is the dreams we held for the future that are hardest for me, the plans we made, but hopefully I will have my new plans for me.'
hi,townie,my husband of of 9 years left me the day after boxing day,out of the blue, i feel like my guts have been pulled out,i have been in hospital its been that bad for me,i thought he was having a breakdown,i can not believe what he has done, all the hurt, and the lies he tells,he still has not told me the truth,but i know know it is some one elce,im off to the solicitor on mon,cant go on like this,i send you and chester my love xxxx