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12 Mar 08 #16585 by maggotface
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Hello, I've been married for 15 years, have a ten year old daughter and have "grown apart" from my wife in as much as 8 years ago she decided she didn't love my in that way anymore. I have been patient, tried lots of things but as a romantic couple we are history. We are living as housemates who share the cost of accomodation, running a home and raising our daughter.
Problem has occurred in that I have met someone new and my wife has found out. At the moment it is an affair but my new friend and I are both looking to move in together and have a life together. She is also in a loveless marriage but no children.
I guess what I need to know is what happens now? Should we both move out, set up home together and then start proceedings - assume we would both have to admit adultery and get our other halves to apply on that basis.
Not sure what needs to happen first and don't want to do anything that prejudises any decisions by the courts etc. Advice gratefully accepted.

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12 Mar 08 #16589 by dukey
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The only advice i can offer is from the outset you consider the emotional practical and financial needs of your daughter and of course your wife, thats a good starting piont.

I hope you make the right chioces what you decide now will have a ripple effect on many and for many years to come

Good luck dukey

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