Beautiful introduction. It's been a long time for me too since divorce(6 1/2 years) and then again it seems like yesterday, that I had enough after 17 year marriage. I know what that guilt feels like even if I have tried to rationalise that it was only 50% my 'fault'. No matter what, the guilt is there and I have to accept it. It's part of me, I couldn't live with a person that I did not love and who I don't think loved me how I needed to be loved and appreciated. What would marriage be without a little guilt. Ten years is a long time, and he still loves the kids..I'm glad that you appreciate him for who he is, that is how I think you can best help. Your understanding will be a gift. Take care--diane
At least he feels his guilt and is aware of and concerned for the upkeep of the children despite the fact they are not biologically his.
My ex left me for someone else and from that day has not acknowledged my 4 older children and neither have his family (they were step-father and step-grandparents and step-aunt for 9.5 years).
Whilst what he has done isnt "right" as long as he shows his ex and her children respect on the long journey they have ahead of them I think thats all that can be hoped for.