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22 Mar 08 #17429 by marriaa
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I just came across this site by chance.I find it very helpful as I am a person who is very private but here I feel that I can express myself.I am 51 yrs old been with my hsuband for 34 and married 31yrs.unfortunately due to business and children we slowly drifted apart,(and his constant girlfriends).He moved out in November and we decided to have an amicable divorce as we were still very friendly and have two children that we love dearly.We had a great christmas together but at the end of January he more or less try to pressurise me into petitioning for divorce ,that was a sunday,then on monday I found out that his girlfriend of 27yrs,he is 54,was coming over from abroad.I was very upset as he did not tell me the truth as I have accepted that our marriage was over.Since then I have not spoken to him,unfortunately we are in business and equal partener.Financially there is no problem at the moment but I realise that he has been shifting money from the business.So now I am going for everything that I can get.We started the business together,I have always worked.The fight gives me the strength and the pleasure to live.Sad for him that he understimate me.By the way I will make him wait for the divorce,if he is good in 2 yrs otherwise as long as I can.
I never realised how the survival stinct kicks in when you need it.:)

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22 Mar 08 #17432 by mike62
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Mariaa,
Welcome to Wikivorce. Hopefully you will find some kindred spirit here. I too am in business with STBX (soon to be ex), and it makes life 'interesting'. However, at the moment there is nobody else on the sidelines for either party. Still, the emotional rollercoaster takes you to some big highs and lows.
Forensic Accountant springs immediately to mind. Not cheap, but if he is meddling with significant assets then probably worthwhile.
I would ask myself the question as to whether it is worth putting myself through the emotional mangle for two years to make a point. But that is a decision only you can make. If he were to petition you and you were to defend, you would be wasting a huge amount of money on solicitors and barrister to get the same nett result. A divorce.
Very best of luck Maria, whatever you decide. There is a wealth of knowledge and experience here to draw upon, do use it. Take care of yourself, and keep posting.
Mike

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23 Mar 08 #17444 by loobyloo
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Mike
can you tell memore about forensic accountant, is it too late for me do you think to get one...fh 21/22 april
cheers matey
looby

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23 Mar 08 #17446 by Alan333
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Hi Marriaa,
It was very good to talk with you last night on the chat line,I know this site will help you a lot. It is a good base to which to work from and express one's feelings.
Good luck.
Alan333

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23 Mar 08 #17447 by mike62
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Looby,
A forensic accountant rakes through company and personal accounts, looking for evidence of asset concealment. They are not cheap. A friend of mine used one and it cost her £10,000. However, he turned up nearly 10 times what she paid him, so her 50% share meant it was worth her while. They need full access to bank statements, accounts, invoices etc to do their job. SpecialDad is probably a good person to ask about them - maybe send him a PM? Your solicitor will know one local to you. As you say, might be a bit tight on timescales for next month, but if there is a lot at stake, worth a try.
Mike

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23 Mar 08 #17459 by marriaa
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Hi mike,
thanks for the advice,would a good divorce solicitor provide this service?money should not be a problem I am sure he is planning to walk away with more than his share.
As for the divorce,we have been seperated for only 5 months ,if I do accept on 2 yrs seperation,the mood he is in now,not having his own way,he will have me for purjery.Unfortunately I cannot trust any solicitors in Cardiff due to his network of friends.so I am looking for someone in Bristol,if anyone can help it will be much appreciated,I would prefer a recommended one

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23 Mar 08 #17460 by marriaa
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Hi Alan ,I enjoyed chatting last nite.hope to catch up with u again.It does help to chat to others.

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