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Nearly a year now - same emotions !!

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Hello all,

This is my first post after many months of sitting and perusing a lot of posts on this very helpful web site.

A brief synopsis of my plight. Together 10 years and married for almost 3 years. Last July my wife left citing "we don''t work together anymore". We separated fairly amicably with me keeping the house and paying her off (we have no children).

This week the house was finally legally tied up in my name after months of redtape and slight awkwardness from ex.

The trouble for me now is for a long time I''ve had to focus getting the house/mortgage sorted and now its all finally done, I find the raw emotions I felt initially at separation are washing over me again.

Im desperately sad at the moment, crying alot and even missing the ex. Dangerous stuff !!

I only hope this is just a passing wave of emotion. But it does trouble me that nearly 12 months on and the tears still flow.


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25 Mar 12 #320032 by livinginhope
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Colin I''ve posted today about very similar emotions to those you are experiencing.Last year I realised I needed to divorce my STBX and I felt a huge relief that it would be soon over.Next week he will be moving out and I feel very emotional about it all.
I suppose after all the legal activity is settled ,nearly settled,we then need to have a mourning period for the relationship we have lost.Hopefully we will come through it all stronger and ready to face the future.

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Hello livinghope and thanks for responding.

Yes I guess your right. I could sense this was going to happen to me. All my focus was on the stresses around my house and mortgage arranging which no doubt diverted my attention from the emotional side of things.

Needless to say, once the stresses disappeared the emotions came flooding back.Hopefully, as you say, we will be stronger at the other end.

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