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06 Apr 12 #322049 by khan72
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Hello I am new to this forum. Accrimonious divorce :(. Not bothered about financial piece as money comes and goes. C''est la vie.
My Daughter. I love her and i will be in her life no matter what.

SBTX made 40+ allegations (no attachments)
Me made zero allegations (several attachments proving STBX lies)

My hair strand test is all clear from cannabis, cocaine, amphetamines etc. I knew this already.
Me and my brother (i live with him) returned no previous records on enhanced criminal checks.. so no one is a paedophile.

Cafcass recommended supervised contact to continue and fact finding :)all up for that as i hope the truth will all come out.

Not pleased that my contact is still supervised but if i worked for CAFCASS and my job were on the line, I would wait for a fact finding also. I see it this way, they are being cautious and it does save lives of other children (so i hope). So i am philosophical about the situation. I am sad when i think that i am missing her growing up. Eventually, we will have good contact. Its the only thing that keeps me going.

I see these courts as nothing but a process where they give the father hoops to jump through and eventually i get normal access.

Got a Directions end of next week with a lovely barrister. To be honest, I want to just self rep. I have done nothing wrong.

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09 Apr 12 #322561 by happyagain
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You seem a very reasonable man, well done for remaining so calm about the situation! Many people on here have self-ripped with child matters and been successful, others have been less so. But you seem to have the right attitude and be following the right course of action.
You will get plenty of advice on here if you do self-rep.

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09 Apr 12 #322564 by sillywoman
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You sound a wonderful father - your daughter will grow up to be very proud of her daddy.

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09 Apr 12 #322565 by khan72
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Thank you. Which forum do i use for child self repping questions? I also have a few questions regarding my form E questions. Which forum do i use for that? Eg give 6 property particulars? i just dont get it.

You are not the first one to call me calm. All this has taught me something about myself. That my honesty and integrity will not sway under pressure. I am so happy that I dismissed those who told me to make untrue and wild counter accusations. If the judge orders a fact finding (which I hope he does, I won''t be the one having sleepless nights). It comes from having faith in myslef and sometimes seeing these things in life as dips. I am a firm believer that in life, "as you sow, so shall you reap". Just wondring how long the STBX will take before realising that she cannot use our daughter as a "psychological weapon". I shed tears for my daughter. I feel like a failure as I wished for her to grow up in a home with a mum and a dad, just like i did. I am truly sorry. My girl is the real victim in all of this. I just wish it could be as painless as possible for her. I hope she can forgive me. :(

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09 Apr 12 #322571 by Fiona
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All the threads appear on the main forum page so it doesn''t matter that much which one you use. If you use the ancillary relief/financial and contact/residence page the threads are more likely to be picked up by those who just use those forums.

With the finances dependent children are a priority, in particular their need for housing. The starting point is to consider local house prices and both parties mortgage raising capabilities. Hence the question to give details of six properties.

Self repping is fine if a case isn''t that complicated and with children cases there isn''t usually a great deal of law involved. Finances are a bit trickier.

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