Thank you in advance for your help here. As context: My wife and I are separated.I agreed to move out of the family home and leave my wife and 2 children to stay there, while I rent another property.
My younger child stays with me 2 nights every week. As I had a brief period out of work I said we should wait for a divorce until I was working again and in stable employment. I am now working. My name is on the deeds of the property and I lived there alone for 10 years before my wife moved in after we were married. I pay all the bills and all the mortgage, endowment etc
She has never paid any bills relating to the property or groceries etc., She now has a boyfriend staying in the home on a regular basis and I have told her I object to this staying overnight aspect as I am supporting her and the children for their benefit and am not paying everything to have someone else stay there and in effect be a consumer of electricity, water etc., and to ''benefit'' from me paying everything including council tax, home insurance etc., My question is: Does she have the right to have her boyfried stay overnight despite the property being in my name and that I pay everything, or do I have right to insist he does not stay overnight on a regular basis? Thank you
Yes, your wife is allowed to have any guests stay over that she pleases if she lives there (which she does).
However, you don''t have to make this easy for her. As WR said, you don''t have to pay anything other than child maintenance at the moment. Whilst some might argue that its not fair to pull the financial rug out from under your wife''s feet, it seems to me that your wife is taking the mick. She''s not contributing a penny to the household and then invites her boyfriend in to benefit from your largesse. Very cheeky!!
I would state to your wife very plainly that you are not prepared to continue to maintain her and her boyfriend. Either the boyfriend does not stay over until all financials are sorted, or you stop contributing to the household.
Just to clarify - my advice was not to make life awkward for your wife. Or pull the financial rug from under her.
However in the current set up she may not be in any hurry to make any different arrangements and people are rarely able to afford a home for themselves (+ food & bills) and still pay mortgage on FH (+ bills etc) Its admirable that you are doing this, but long term it may be untenable.
At the financial stage, you all will need to think realistically about what happens to the FH, have a look at these links: