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To stay or go ...... how do you initiate a discussion with a man who just doesnt do the talk emotions, feelings.
I have on many occasion tried to bring up the subject of "im not happy in this marriage" to be told, "well just #### off then. Your problem YOU deal with it."
How do you tell your husband of 25 years that you want to leave?
I am scared. Lonely. Stressed. Living in Limbo. Do I try to bring up the subject, generate discussion (i must owe him that) but in fear that he will explode and I will be not be "in" control, with little money, potentially out on my ear.
Or do I quietly plan, work out a strategy to escape before generating the discussion.
I need to work out all the pros cons, finances, plans .... the danger is once I open my mouth a giant snowball of emotion, anger, resentment will engulf me. I am scared of the consequences.
My preference is to walk out the door with a flat already waiting, my finances stablish and my dignigy in tact. My fear is aggression, humiliation.
My husband''s behaviour has erode my feelings toward him. There is nothing left. I have covered up, carried on for the sake of the children. I have seen through their schooling, university and now the moment I have fantasised about draws near. Time for me. Is it right to be selfish? Why do I feel guilty about everything? Should I stay to keep everyone else happy. I have played my part too, as the saying goes it takes two to tango and its been a very unhappy dance. Im tired.