Hello from a newbie.

Hello

I am a male and a respondent to a divorce petition. I am Married for more than 30 years with no dependent children, 3 properties and assets of good value with no debts. The day I walked out, we agreed in principle the division of assets (though nothing on paper) I was hoping that the divorce would be straightforward, since I agreed to the divorce at my wife''s request.

My wife is alleging that I assaulted her (which is not true) In fact, the Police have had her admit to an assaut on me. My wife is just 1 unnanounced visit to me short of being charged with harassment.

As a result we are now unable to communicate except through solicitors, our two adult are siding with their mother and refusing to speak to me.

I have been locked out of my own home, where I keep my tools and other personal belongings.

My business crumbling due to the stress this is placing on me, and the endless hours I seem to be spending on setting up a new home from home.

My wife has refused mediation, so it''s straight to court with a dreaded form E (financial disclosure) sat in my in tray and piles of paperwork to collect an collate and to support it.

I am very much hoping that this forum would be able to help me and I will help others if I can.

Kind regards

Jasper

Hi Jasper & welcome to wiki!

There are many here that are and have been in your shoes, so you''ll get support and advice here from your new wiki friends.

Things sound very high on the emotional level at the moment, avoid any retaliation or tit-for-tat reactions - which may escalate or that you may later regret, take a few deep breaths and stay calm.

Look after yourself and it may seem like the last thing on your mind right now - but try to eat well.

Have you been to the GPs to discuss the stress you''re under?

The best advice I can give right now is try not to look at everything as a ''whole'' it can be overwhelming - just deal with little chunks at a time - a lot more manageable.

Take care

WR