I''ve been married for 14 years and alone for 14 years. My ''wife'' is straight from the Jeremy Kyle show. She shouts, she swears, she has temper tantrums, is irrational. Doesn''t speak to her father, brothers etc, etc. She is a stain on the face of humanity, a nasty piece of work but I didn''t want my children to grow up to be drug dealers liker her nephews so bit my tongue despite being desperately unhappy.
She issue me with a divorce petition, after crying wolf several times over the years and I signed it. I don''t have the finances to fight besides the kids are old enough know to see her for what she is, two boys aged 13 and 7.
We''re at the financial settlement stage. If I get a 50-50 split of the family home I will be delighted, I can start again.
My deepest sympathies to everyone in a similar situation.
The financial settlement is a complicated area. The primary focus is the welfare and housing of the children, if you post the following details someone may be able to give a view in settlment
Lenght of marriage and co-habitation
Number and ages of children
Amount of time they will spend with each of you
Assests both jointly and individually held
Liabilities (debts) Jointly and individually held
Values of pension you each hold
With a long marriage the starting point is a 50:50 split but this gets tilted one way or another depending on individual situation. It is not uncommon for the Parent With Care (PWC) to be awarded a larger share, typically 60:40 split but often higher than this.
I am 39
She is 34
We both now work part-time & I am studying at University. We earn around £4000 each pa
2 boys ages 13 & 7.
Time spent to be determined but weekends I think she will agree to as a starting point
She has £3000 of debts I have none
My pension is valued at around £10K.