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Let me get this straight.
You have been alone for 14 years living with a woman you don''t respect, but you have made two chidren with her.
You are the better parent but are not prepared to put together a case to fight to be their main carer.
Your wife is a terrible mother but you are planning to leave your children with her for five
years then take them away from her.
You want to get married but have no one lined up for the position and don''t seem to have given any thought to the possibility that it might be difficult to find someone.
Hmmm I have read this thread with interest....I would be interested to hear the other side of the story.
If you wife is the harridan you say she is, why did you marry her and have children with her in the first place ?
I know we all change as we get older but from what you are saying your wife has suffered a personality transplant and has morphed into a complete monster.
If you were that concerned for the childrens'' wellbeing you would move heaven and earth to ensure their needs were met before your own. Its easy to talk the talk, how about actually doing something in action instead of making excuses.
Sorry to sound harsh, but something sounds amiss here.
Do what most people do - get a job, any job!
Nevertheless, you intend to leave the children with their mother, possibly making them homeless in the process, and then abandon them further by leaving the country.
In five years time you will return and claim the children - by which time the elder one will be eighteen in any case so not a child any more. You believe that they will still want to live with you because they will be desperate to leave the person who has (however unsatisfactorily) looked after them for the past five years, in order to live with someone who abandoned them and left her, and them, to it.
You need to get real here. If your wife is such a terrible parent that the children are potentially in danger, you should at the very least hang around seeing them frequently so you can keep an eye on things.
Alternatively you could go for being parent with care yourself. If she isn''t, but is just someone you no longer want to live with who is finding that hard to cope with, then you need to find a way of supporting her parenting, if you want to leave the children with her as you say you do.