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30 Apr 12 #327466 by Palermo
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greebobeebo wrote:

Having read this thread,my response is as follows:

How could you leave your kids in a situation like that?

How could you use your oldest son as a buffer for his brother?

To protect him.

As a father it''s your responsibility to do all that you can to make sure that your kids lives are as carefree as possible.

You are willing to ABANDON them for a job, you are willing to LEAVE them in a bad situation.

SHE left 3 times, I''ve always been here so who is abandoning who? Yes I am willing to make a short term sacrifice for the betterment of their lives. She''ll leave them with my parents while she''s working, IF she''s still working. The kids will get looked after.

Your oldest son will grow to hate you no matter how much you sugar coat it.

Really? Tell me how that''s going to work because he hates his mother, they fight constantly only now he''s too big to push around. You reap what you sow. He doesn''t speak to me in the way he speaks to her.

Your youngest son won''t know you in 5 years.

3 months holiday every year. Skype, webcams, telephones, Xbox Live etc, etc. The single biggest influence on him is his brother. You don''t know my kids so don''t make assumptions.

If I met a man with that attitude, ain''t no way I''d want him in my life!

Good for you but I''m not here for a proposal.
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30 Apr 12 #327470 by rubytuesday
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Palermo wrote:

I don''t need or want a women''s perspective.

Well, looks like you got a few perspectives from women anyway ;)

As you are fairly new here, you might not be aware of how our forum works. Often the advice we need to hear is not always what we want to hear. Posting on a public forum that is on an all-inclusive site like Wikivorce means that you are likely to receive a wide range of views, opinions and perspectives.

Our members spend a good deal of their own time helping and advising others, all because they want to help and pass on the benefit of their own experiences and knowledge - and they do this for free. You might do well to remember this when responding to the posts that people have taken time to write specifically on your thread - even if its not what you want to hear ;)

You have received a huge amount of help on this very long thread, perhaps it time for you to consider everything that has been said, and take all the advice into account and think about what your next step should be.

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30 Apr 12 #327475 by rubytuesday
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