Hi

18 months in, Nisi done, no agreement on finances (nearly x wont even agree to valuation so we know what we might end up with nor agree to put property on market) and still rattling round in same house (he enters a room - i leave),redundancy looming and do you know what, this is still the best time in my recent years as i have a future to look forward to for myself and family. Didnt feel like there was one before and now, in time, there will be.

Madam,
As long as you do nothing, there is no incentive whatever for him to do anything about it or to find other accommodation. As matters stand, he has a right to live there and unless you do something to force the issue, that will be the situation for ever and ever amen.
So I assume you made a financial claim against him.
You mention family, which implies dependent children. If so, there is a strong possibility that you would not have to sell at all until the children grow up.
So have you explored your housing options ? Are you legally represented ?
LMM

Thank you for your comments, there are a number of options to follow up on as property is more than adequate (so i am advised) to provide for both of us. To explore the options in detail i need to get what i believe is a ''point of sale'' valuation on the property, in a number of configurations, to see what capital could be raised. He is demanding that finances be sorted but refusing to allow valuation to take place (to extent that part of property is locked off and inaccesible). He is currently refusing to respond to any correspondence through solicitors. No doubt court will be final option ........ I just felt that there is so much angst on this site that my expressing my feeling of optimism, despite my current awkward situation, might lift someone, somewhere ....