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  • mingmong
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04 May 12 #328488 by mingmong
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Indeed iam honest why shoudnt I be?


The thing that worries me is the sudden move towards divorce it seems like she has to make a Clean Break.

I have told her I dont want a divorce but all she says is its all about me and not her why cant I accept divorce is what SHE wants?

I suppose thats true, I m being selfish again.

I think we will be friends theres absolutely no reason why we cant be.

I know I will struggle to come to terms If and when she moves on.

Ive been to the Doctors today as Ive had a contsant head ache since the split in February.

He says its normal and when things pick up it should go.

He offered pills but Im not wanting to have any.

Im sleeping ok, looking after myself and eating well.

I Love my family and I want to be the best Dad I can and husband.

Our 8 yr wedding anniversary is around the corner next month, what do I do?
buy a card, flowers?

I feel helpless, Im not the best at showing my affection.

any tips would be great.

thank you so much to those who have read this and replied, when I get through this I will do my best to help others.

Its good to know im not alone.;)

My situation is not half as bad as others ive read about on here.

Good luck to everyone.


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04 May 12 #328494 by sillywoman
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You love your wife - don''t give up!

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04 May 12 #328495 by mingmong
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I wont I promise;)

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04 May 12 #328496 by Canuck425
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I really want this to work,I have begged her and asked her to try she says she doesnt want to anymore.

ok, stop begging. It''s awfully unattractive!

What you can do is work on you. Figure out your stuff and become a better man. That is a heck of a journey and will take time, persistence and emotional awareness that few men have or want to develop. Don''t tell her you''re doing this, just do it.

As you develop and change, she''ll notice. But don''t do this to win her back, do it for you. You''ll become a better man, a better father and a better mate for the next relationship if that''s with her or not.

Take the pressure off her for reconciliation. Tell her you hear her on the divorce and go ahead. All the time doing the work it takes to figure out your stuff. This may result in your marriage coming back or not. Who knows? But by investing in you and believing in yourself you''re taking huge strides forward that will benefit you and your kids.

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04 May 12 #328498 by Mitchum
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Great advice from the others but I didn''t want to just read and pass by without sending my good wishes that however it turns out you''ll be that great Dad and find happiness once again.

Difficult one about the anniversary though. It might be a case of damned if you do and damned if you don''t acknowledge it in some way. Sorry that''s not very helpful. Maybe someone will come up with a suggestion.

Take care. xx

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05 May 12 #328511 by hawaythelads
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don''t beat yourself up to much that you couldn''t leave world of Warcraft alone or halo3 that will probably pale into insignificance about it all being your fault once you find out the real reason for the divorce is she will have been having an affair for the past 18 months.
I will be proven right on this one again
All the best
Pete xx

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05 May 12 #328513 by mingmong
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I hope your wrong Pete, I can''t say for 100%
That she hasn''t had an affair I don''t think she has,
She detested infidelity as her first husband beat her up and had affairs.
Like you say time will tell.
I have an open mind on everything, let''s say she had an affair or is having an affair I can''t blame her I showed her no attention!

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