Hi Sam. Good on you son. You have done some good things in the last week. You moved out of the joint bedroom which is good. You are going to relate which is good. All looking good. Which could be why you are feeling a bit better. When we act in a positive way, it helps us. And this is what you should continue todo. Be positive and act positive.
I just want to lay some things on you to perhaps help you.
Keep going to relate. Even if she doesnt want to go. Its over mate. She had the affair, the marriage is in tatters. So the most positive thing todo is use relate to work out a way that both of you can manage your extraction from this marriage. What is done is done. No recriminations. There lies ruin. The less you fight and argue the easier this will be for you. Remember that. No need to be lovey dovey with her. Business like and positive will do and of course no blame.
I am pleased that you have started on this road. Not that many seek help with seperation. You are in a good place. And do this right and you will come out of this cleanly with the minimum damage. C.