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Well, I have learned a lot in the past year. When I tell people about my story and then tell them that it is not hard at all to find huge positives that have come out of it they''re pretty surprised.
I am coming through this stronger. That is a commitment I made to myself. In some ways, I think I was lucky to have the cancer and marriage implosion at the same time. When you have cancer people know what to do. I diverted a lot of the cancer support and used it for emotional support for marriage implosion. It worked.
I have taken a lot of time to learn about myself. To really examine my role in the marriage breakdown. I think this is so important. It would be so easy to be the victim and just complain or feel sorry for myself. I wanted to make sure I was accountable for my role in getting our marriage to the point where she had the affair.
I hate it when people say that time heals all wounds. I don''t buy that. Time may heal the wound but there will be a scar. I do believe that with time and a LOT of work on yourself you can emerge stronger and fitter. But you''ll always have that scar. For me I have the scar literally from my cancer surgery. I feel it every day. The fact that it coincided with the marriage implosion will mean that I have a physical reminder for all of this.
It''s been an interesting year. Not boring for sure. A lot of bad stuff has happened. A lot of crazy stuff too (read my blog from the beginning if you want to have a laugh). But a lot of really good stuff has happened too. I certainly know myself a whole lot better and I am so happy about that. Because I''m a pretty great guy!