Following my recent £2000 solicitor''s bill (and that was before I submitted my Petition to court) I''ve decided to take a step back from seeking her advice at every step of the way and thought I''d give this a try.
My stbx''s solicitor sent his petition to my solicitor about a month ago. I was advised that his statement of case for UB is very woolly and I know that the only reason he''s filing for divorce is so that he can drag the process out "to make me suffer as I have made him suffer". Of course I didn''t intend for him to suffer; I simply do not love him anymore and want to end the marriage.
I moved out of the family home two months ago with my children. They are all of an age where they can decide whether or not to see their father and are not visiting particularly often. This is obviously being construed as me "poisoning them" against their father when in truth it''s his behaviour that''s putting them off.
I considered my options and this week filed my own petition at court, emailing his solicitor the day after the event. Two days later, I received an email from them saying that he too has filed for divorce.
Will his petition be seen as a cross petition as it was filed after mine? I don''t think they will have used the same court as his solicitors are miles away. If it is a cross-petition, what happens then?
In a situation such as this one set of proceedings is usually dismissed and the remaining Petition is then allowed to proceed. The cost of divorce proceedings will increase at a phenomenal rate unless there is some co-operation or capitulation.