A big thank you to you all - i have been in the background reading as much as i can from this site and it has been of great assistance in pointing me in the right direction and the silent suport you have all given gives me hope that there is life after divorce, even though it doesnt feel like it now.
On Monday i finally had the courage to submit my diviorce Petition - after finally getting most of my possessions from the FMH under the bulling of soon 2bx and mother in law after a 15 month battle, ending in the soon 2bx calling the police in an attempt to have me arrested as he didnt want me there !
and being told that i have served my purpose in suporting him for the last 10 years and now that he has a full time job and met another woman why cant i just disappear.
You Wiki members unknowingly helped with me applying for a reduced issuing fee that was granted.
I will be a litigant in person as I earn too much to qualify for legal help but do not earn enough to pay for solicitors fees.
For the last 8 months i was working 7 days a week but was told by my doctor that i should cut back on the amount of hours i was working because it was seriously effecting my health - i have rheumatiod arthritis.
Soon 2bx has constantly refused to give me any help.
So i also filed an application for maintenance pending suit as i cant make ends meet. I am not living an extravegant life - i just need to pay the rent and the usual household bills.
Am now just waiting to hear from the court when this will take place.
Any advise that can be given in dealing with the pending hearing would be grately received. I have done my affidavit and an income outgoing list.
I completed the EX160 using the guidence notes. Collected together my rental agreement for the house, bank statements for the last two months and well as payslips for the last two months. I also got a letter from my youngest son''s school confirming that he is still in full time education (because he is 18 and still doing his A Levels).
I went to the court in person to get my afidavit sworn and submitted all the paperwork. They checked my Petition to make sure all was in order and got approval to the remission. I had to pay £50.00 for the divorce petition and then a further £50.00 for the Form A.
A seperate EX160 for each application was needed.
Without Wikivorce I would still be saving for the application fee and probably lost my nerve.
My next hurdle is the actual hearing for the maintenance pending suit - still waiting for the hearing date which I was told I should hear when that is quite soon.
Does anyone have any advice to help me through proceess please?
For a while now fee remissions seem to have failed usually due the time in processing, its good to know they are going through again.
The MPS is usually quite a short hearing, around one hour but they can go over time, really the judge will focus on what you need and if you ex can afford to help, you seem to be ready, just make sure your statement of needs is nice and clear and easy to read, after that its down to how much money the ex can afford, its not uncommon for the respondent to say i`m skint and can`t afford to pay, if they do go though their statement of needs and rule out what is unnecessary.
Providing you are reasonable in what you need and the ex can pay it will be ordered.
S2BX will with out a doubt say he cannot afford to give me a penny - he has already told me that- although it is not true. He is not wealthy by any means but i just need some help with basic living requirements i.e. utility bills and groceries.
Will he be required to serve an income outgoings schedule? and if so will the Judge go through this or will i have the opportunity to ask questions? (or is it best to leave it to the Judge?) as i know he will inflate his figures - i dont begrudge the fact that he has 3 vehicles but surely he does not require to have all 3 taxed mot''d and insured (These are garaged)whilst i stuggle to feed myself and son (from a former marriage - a son that has hollow legs!) plus when i left the FMH all i took was my clothes.
I plan to take copies of bills, receipts, wage slips etc. to prove that the figures i have given are not exaggerated.
Try and keep it simple Letty, make it easy for the judge.
So two papers one with your total income and a breakdown of where its derived,
The same for what you need to live, by all means take bills ect just in case the judge wants a quick look, they tend not to though.
He will be asked to prepare a schedule of income and needs, never yet have i seen one that didn''t say they were skint, its for the judge to decide what is reasonable, because this is temporary providing his income is high enough MPS`s tend to be successful.