Hi everyone I already feel like i know you all ive been so long visiting this site drawing great comfort from your inspirational stories.
Im 53 STX is 46 and we have two teenagers boy almost 18 and daughter 15. Our marriage of 14 yrs (together 20) has been a really hard struggle due to my chronic ill health. I have for many years been unable to leave the house or care for my children without a lot of support.
When he left in Jan last year we parted reasonably amicably.I understood he needed space life had not turned out as we had hoped and the strains were immense. He took a flat around the corner and continued to support us financially . It therefore came as a massive hammer blow to find out he had infact left us for a 25 yr old with two young babies ! Sixteen months down the line and it does at times still feel unreal.
My son became very depressed and it broke my heart to watch him suffer he was eventually diagnosed with bipolar last June. My daughter coped by throwing herself into school life and all her numerous hobbies .
I am unable to work and my social life is governed by my health. I feel so cheated and continue to grieve what could of been if things had been different
I would like to add my welcome too and say how sorry I am that you find yourself in this position. I think chronic ill health adds a difficult dimension to a relationship and when that relationship ends and you find out that your partner has found someone else, it serves only to highlight what you see may see as faults. Thet are not. Whatever he is looking for in his 25year old is about him, not you. You only have to read the threads on here to understand that you don''t need to do anything for a partner to behave as yours has.
I think what you have to focus on is maximising the days when you feel able to tackle the routine of rebuilding your life. Your son and daughter both need you as the constant in their life. They may or may not choose to confide in you, but if they do then you need to have the strength to be available to them. YOu must concentrate on you more than most of us here because you have your health issues to address as well as the trauma of dealing with the breakdown of your marriage.
People on here will always have kind encouraging words for you. Please visit often and I guarantee you will find the support you need to get you through this traumatic peiod.
Hi give up i am so sorry about what has happened to you and can only reiterate what the others in particular yellow rose have said.
Try and remain strong and make sure you take care of yourself.