A well respected, award winning social enterprise
Volunteer run - Government and charity funded
We help 50,000 people a year through divorce

01202 805020

Lines open: Monday to Friday 9am-5pm
Call for FREE expert advice & service info


What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

What steps can we take to reach a fair agreement?

The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

What is a Consent Order and why do we need one?

A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.


Do you need help sorting out a fair financial settlement?

Our consultant service offers expert advice and support to help you reach agreement on a fair financial settlement quickly, and for less than a quarter of the cost of using a traditional high street solicitor.


Never Saw This One Coming

  • Canuck425
  • Canuck425's Avatar
  • Platinum Member
  • Platinum Member
More
04 Jun 12 #335002 by Canuck425
Reply from Canuck425
Get the help you need to be healthy. That''s pretty important. Loads of good advice and tips on previous comments.

''Love and respect''

That''s what you need to give yourself!

  • Crumpled
  • Crumpled's Avatar
  • Platinum Member
  • Platinum Member
More
04 Jun 12 #335047 by Crumpled
Reply from Crumpled
Hi please please go to your doctor and ask for help this is not weakness this is normal I have been where you are now as have so many of us who are posting on here so we do understand ..my doctor gave me anti depressants..and urgent counselling and they were a lifesaver to me as was this forum .......

  • Crumpled
  • Crumpled's Avatar
  • Platinum Member
  • Platinum Member
More
04 Jun 12 #335048 by Crumpled
Reply from Crumpled
Hi please please go to your doctor and ask for help this is not weakness this is normal I have been where you are now as have so many of us who are posting on here so we do understand ..my doctor gave me anti depressants..and urgent counselling and they were a lifesaver to me as was this forum .......

  • Down_in_a_hole
  • Down_in_a_hole's Avatar Posted by
  • Premium Member
  • Premium Member
More
14 Jun 12 #336707 by Down_in_a_hole
Reply from Down_in_a_hole
Hi all

Just a quick update to my situation, I am feeling a little calmer now and am determined not to let this state of affairs drive me to drink or self medication. Still don’t know where I stand with her but are playing cards very close to chest. People I thought I could trust and have confided in have been reporting back to my partner with obvious embellishments. She has chosen to believe these so called friends, my line is ‘I know what has been said and I know the truth and have no reason to lie’. She has not been going out as such and no secret phone calls, still plenty of text and facebook traffic though, If she is having an affair in this country I am convinced it is with someone who is either married or in a long term relationship.

Have spent a great deal of time together and I have managed to stay calm and collected at most times. The only disagreements have been over lies people have said to both myself and her, she obviously does not believe me and only offered a hardhearted apology when confronted with the evidence on my phone. The husband of the close friend is the biggest stirrer, when she asked about my problem regarding someone in the resort they are visiting I replied that that the husband had told me her and her friend had met him in a bar, this was denied. I was accused of lying in order to cause trouble between her friend and husband, I replied that he had told me that they had met with xxx and yyy in a bar in the main area of the resort and he was f’in p***ed off about it. This was denied and she said I had made it up, I offered to make a phone call to the husband but was told to ‘Stop causing trouble’, I can remember the date and place that the conversation took place in so this will be stored for future reference.

Spent time together at an event, with very poor phone coverage so she did not use facebook, had a good time together although the event was more to my taste than hers, still she did attend for the whole time. Cannot understand why she attended on one day as there was nothing to interest her, she could have remained in the house, as I drove from the house to the event each day, or used it as an excuse to visit a friend without me knowing, strange but true. This is driving me mad as I cannot see for the life of me understand why someone would want to spend a whole day at an event with noting to attract them with someone they did not particularly want to be with:unsure:

She and friend are off on ‘The’ holiday at the weekend so when they return the following week things may be a little clearer. I am determined to avoid the temptation to keep contacting her when she is away even though we have a sim card for the country they are visiting, I would really appreciate others views on this approach as we have always phoned each other daily when either of us have been away either for business or pleasure. Am I doing the right thing by not contacting her or could she take it that I no longer care and use it as justification for playing away, think I am in a no win situation here.

Will be going out of my mind this week thinking what she may or may not be getting up while she is away, but as she is on the other side of the world there is not a lot I can do about it. I still hope we can work things out but feel this holiday could be the turn round point, which way I do not know.

Think I will spending a great deal of time on these boards over the week or so, may even venture in the chatroom again, anything to avoid hitting the bottle. Thanks again for all your support and may be chatting to you shortly.:(

Love and Respect.

Moderators: wikivorce teamrubytuesdaydukeyhadenoughnowTetsSheziLinda SheridanForsetiMitchumWhiteRoseLostboy67WYSPECIALBubblegum11