married to a control freak and an emotional abuser

Hi hiya my name is anne-marie,and ave been with my husband since i was sixteen.we married very early as you may well imagine.but in the last 3 years i have noticed that his control over me,aswell as emotional abuse has just got far far worse.to the point where i just cannot take anymore,and to the point his even got me back on my depression tablets due to how depressed and low i feel every single day.we have one child who is of fourteen years of age,but who has no idea just how badly her father treats me.am seriously now thinking of divorce,but its so hard because being with him is all ave ever known.plus am also scared i cannot afford to live on my iwn with a child.especially seeing as i cannit work due to being on disability.i really hope to make sime friends on here with whom i can have a good chat with too,am 40 years old and female,and really easy going.take care annie:)

Hi Annie,

Sorry you are here because you are thinking of separating. When you go to the "Community" tab at the top of the page there is a link to the chat room if you feel like chatting. If you have any queries you post them here on the forum and posters will do their best to answer them. Many of us have had long marriages so you aren''t alone.

hi! welcome i would just like to say you are not alone there are alot of us who have lived through abusive marriages myself it was for 20 years.I know how difficult the decision is to divorce especially when children are involved but also know you are very unhappy as you are tablets.Only you can make the decision but do you really want to spend the rest of your life like this!