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06 Jun 12 #335400 by Mrs positive
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Do you ever wonder how you are going to cope financially? Split with husband over a year ago, as well as the emotional annihilation I am suddenly frightened I am not going to cope financially! I''m an a student but even when I qualify the salary is minimal! Shall I struggle to retain my marital Hume. Or shall I call it a day and loose my beautiful house?:S

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06 Jun 12 #335401 by juwelkeeper
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Sadly Mummy that is another one of the sad things that we have to face as well as all the pain. Having to divide all that you have worked for for all those years is sole destroying you take care x

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06 Jun 12 #335402 by Mrs positive
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Sometimes though you just want to give up! Is that normal.

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06 Jun 12 #335409 by fairylandtime
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Hi mn

I know it is hard, I also find the financial side really hard to cope with & sometimes it does seem easier to just let it all go & walk away.

However, I would do a careful budget & decide fully f you can afford to pay the bills etc, if you can then stay (even f it is a bit of a struggle) divorce is bad enough without moving house etc.

If plainly you cannot afford it all then look at something you can. Only you can decide that.

It is also worrying that you are a single earner (if) anything happens to you / your job etc then basically your stuffed (at least I am) which is also worring but we just have to carry on & do the best that we can with what we have.

Stay strong JJx

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06 Jun 12 #335418 by yellowrose
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Hi MN
Yes feeling the way you do is completely normal but you will soldier on.

I think the fear for our future finacial and emotional is really hard to deal with. The fact that it has been forced upon us when we thought we had our lives mapped out makes it doubly hard.

Stay strong

YR xxxxxxxx

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06 Jun 12 #335441 by Action
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I still worry about future finances but not as much as I used to. I was devastated at the thought of losing what I thought of as my dream home and ending up in a little box. That has now changed and I can''t wait to have my own place. Looking after this house has become a burden, emotionally and financially. The new place will be mine - not my ''dream home'' but my safe place where I can entertain the people that mean the most to me. Having my son and family living with me this last few months has helped me to realise what is important. It''s taken 18 months but I am now ready to let go and I am sure you will be too, given time.

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