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Hello... New to this and feeling very alone!

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15 Jun 12 #336975 by Winnie81
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I left my husband 3 months ago, after being with him 10 years, married nearly 3. This was mainly due to the fact that I realised that I was being controlled, manipulated and bullied. I cut myself off from all my friends a long, long time ago after being made to feel that I wasn''t a nice enough person to deserve to have any friends and getting so much grief about going out with other people that I chose the easy option.
I have literally just started divorce proceedings and am finding this really, really hard. I feel so alone. I have no-one really to talk to that understands what I am going through. My husband didn''t want me to leave but I cannot forgive him for what he has done and said to me and have come to realise that I deserve better than that and hopefully one day I can be happy.

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15 Jun 12 #336976 by afonleas
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Welcome Winnie.
Sorry that you have found yourself here
but thankfully you have found us,
you will find a great deal of knowledge and support on the site,there is always someone who can help.
We all have been in the situation you
now find yourself in,the feeling of lonliness is so overwhelming in the beginning but it does get easier i promise,i actually like my own company now and i can do what i want, when i want and i find that quite liberating.
So keep posting and pop into chat where you will always have a laugh!!!something we all need.
Please take care of yourself you''ll be ok

luv and cwtchs.............afon

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15 Jun 12 #336977 by sim5355
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hi! and welcome you are not alone because 18 months ago i was in your shoes.i understand that it took along time to make your decision but you knew you had to leave . you will be ok you are bound to be lonely at first just take one step at a time.

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15 Jun 12 #336978 by epitome title
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Hi Winnie

Welcome and you have come to the best place :)

I too am a leaver and I understand how hard it is to do. My stbx was also a controller - I was a fool however and went back three times before I realised it was never going to work and started proceedings.

You will find an immense amount of support here and lots and lots of advice, all you have to do is what you have just done and post, post, post :)

You are not alone, take care of yourself and again, welcome :)

Kindest regards

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15 Jun 12 #336984 by perin123
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Hi Winnie and welcome.

You will be glad you found Wiki,so much support and advice here. This is a very difficult situation to be in, I think many of us wish we weren''t here, but we unfortunately are.

You are amongst people who understand your pain and anguish, you are not alone.

Keep posting, look after yourself.xx

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15 Jun 12 #336994 by Winnie81
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Thank to everyone who has welcomed me, I am already starting to feel slightly better and it is really good to find a site like this where you can get support. So, I will give it a go and do some posts. Thank you everyone! xx

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15 Jun 12 #337001 by raybird
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hello winnie, were your friends now xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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