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16 Jun 12 #337104 by Red lamp shade
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I found this site a few days ago and I am so impressed and touched by the support and care you offer each other. I never go on forums but my story is like other peoples that I know I can share this crap!
So long story short(ish):
Moved to new village last August, made firends with a mum at children''s school, who is single with two kids. Turns out she is quite loose, to put it politely. She comes round to my house all the time, I feel glad that mine and my husband marriage is strong enough to support this single mum, who clearly has some issues, she shags a labourer who was doing some work on our house, within a few hours of meeting him, taking him to hers, we didn''t even know this guy really. Then a few week later she comes round drunk to tell me how she slepped with two brothers at the same time on the first night of a holiday, but then she found out one was married so she stopped sleeping with him and just slept with the other brother!
Less than two months after this husband of 14 years comes back after being gone all weekend to tell me he is love with this woman and is leaving me and the kids.
Begged him to stay, spent three horrible months trying to save the marriage, while he kept on seeing her. He finally moved in to her house which is down the road about 6 weeks ago.
It''s so difficult. He comes round to see our three children with "love bites" on his neck, and is openly parenting her kids, who are the same age, our children are really struggling with that.
And I have got to put up with seeing the ow at school, laughing like she has not a care in the world, when I am in bits.
I have amazing friends and family who have and are a great support, just thought I would let off steam here too!

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16 Jun 12 #337106 by pixy
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Welcome. As you have already explored thesite you will know that many of us have been through similar experiences, which is why the support here is so amazing.

When you are ready, post your practical questions. Don''t forget that blogging can be wonderfully cathartic and that you''ll find like minded people in chat.


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16 Jun 12 #337108 by epitome title
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Welcome Red Light Shade

Whoa - what an awful woman!!

It is such early days for you and i am sure you are still trying to deal with what has happened, let alone thinking about what your next step is. In the early days all you can do is try to look after yourself so that you are strong enough to look after your children.

You are in the right place and let off steam anytime you need to - ask questions to your heart''s content, we will all try to help you.

Kindest regards

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16 Jun 12 #337109 by epitome title
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Another thought, once a slapper, always a slapper, your husband should not be surprised if she moves on to the next one and you should not be surprised if he comes crawling back

Be strong and hold your head up high when she is laughing at the school gate, don''t give her the benefit of thinking she has crushed you, then come on here and let off steam


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16 Jun 12 #337116 by hawaythelads
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I''ve got to say that has got to be one of the worst betrayals I''ve read. I feel so sorry you.
I think you should bxtch slap her in front of all the other mothers.
Sometimes being dignified don''t cut it.
All the best
Pete xx

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16 Jun 12 #337122 by raybird
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poor you, she sounds like a dreadful woman, why would any one want to touch that !! take care and stay strong xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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16 Jun 12 #337124 by fairylandtime
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That''s awful!!! Tempting to do as Hathaway says, but perhaps one of those cases where the mind acts it out but not actually physically acting it out? Wouldn''t give her the satisfaction as ET says keep your head up & use on here as much as needed for venting.

Sounds like your x / husband is acting like a little child himself tbh, he may come to his senses but then he may not & by then you may have moved on.

Stay strong JJx

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