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hello all, part 2

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20 Jun 12 #337812 by patm
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On re-reading my first offering, I did not been to sound as if my ensuing issues with the ex are any worse than yours: I am sure we all suffer, be we Petitioner or respondent, just that it is rather complicated, having married a bigamist ( there, said it) and then remarried him legally: they only do it for the money, you know. No other reason, is there? No admin oversight or any such feabilbe excuse in this case!

CPS rarely even prosecute in the few cases they get every year. Besides, I can''t be bothered with all the hassle. After all, it was not me the offended party but his legal wife at the time. I don''t think she ever knew what he did to her. Lived a double life, didn''t he - some time with me, some time with her.

After a few years he did get divorced so we then legally married. Stupid me: worst thing I ever did: already knew he was a womanising, lying, drunk, with a predilection for domestic violence, but well, loved him, simple as that.

Years have now passed: it is time for me to get rid of him once and for all, whilst safe-guarding my house, which has always been my house. Pseudo threats re putting a restriction on it, so can''t even sell it, even if the market was more bouyant.

I am intending to go for a JS and will be writing a formal letter to him conforming to the pre-action protocals as much as I can, but really want to avoid mediation.... not just the cost ( I am skint and living off my tenant''s rents - not worked since I got ill over all this stress and do not claim any state-assistance) but no point. No point in mediation with someone like that, where lying is second nature. Disclosure of finances? Well, that will be a laugh: I can''t wait to see his form E - that is if he has not already disposed of some of his assets, and the cheek of him, thinking he can get hold of money from me? I think not. The one thing I have learnt, once you seperate, get it formalised with at least a Deed of Seperation - don''t leave it years like I have. Disposal opportunity!

Anyway, hope you have found some of my story if not helpful, at least entertaining. You don''t often come across a victim of a bigmaist!!!!

As hitherto mentioned, probably going to be a permanant fixure on here for well, until its all over... LOL.

So here''s to all fellow newbies, LIP''s, Petitioners and Respondents alike - also to the professional legally-trained folks who give so freely of their time and advice.

So any idea if one needs to get FM1 form signed off in a case of a JS? Many thanks once again.

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