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27 Jun 12 #339581 by Lori321
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With much sadness I have filed for divorce. I just filed and haven''t used a solicitor, i''m hoping i wont need one but my husband does not want to divorce. I will miss him but there are major trust issues which are making us both ill.
We married last year in April, I have had to wait untill the year was up to divorce so have tried very hard to resolve the problem but last week I had to come to the decision I''ve made.
Due to the short married and the fact that we both have never sold each of our own properties to buy a joint property i hope this will be clear cut and a clean brake order will be given.
My husband is self employed and has no pension he also has Celiacs which has affected his bones and i fear he will try to claim maintenance from me and claim off my pension (and not work). He has stated many times he did not marry me for fiancial gain....but...we will see if he claims. I have two children 20 and 22 who are dependent on me...one just finished uni and one still at uni.
Any advice as to the best way forward? It may be just wait and see at this time. I''m at my home and he is at his. He is not talking right now, his mobile is not working (imaging he has propbably smashed it) the last thing he said was either withdraw the Petition or i will be going to a solicitor tomorrow. He also stated he willmake it as difficult for me as he can. Is he just wasting his money going to a solicitor?

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27 Jun 12 #339585 by Kitsi
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You most definitely need a solicitor as there are a lot of issues in this not least the health one and his threat. Have you tried counselling? What are the trust issues- can they be worked on?
What makes you think he could be trusyed now- he may not go to a solicitor at all but my biew is my dear- yuo most def need one.
I hated doing this too- it felt to me like betrayal of someone I loved. PM me if you need to- very happy to listen and be useful if I can KITSI

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27 Jun 12 #339595 by Lori321
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I know at some point I may need a solicitor. i know my husband has being unfaithful to me...it is a complecated story. He constantly says he has not and gives what is called ''gas lighting excuses''. I have got to the state that i am frightened of him, it feels like he has a slit personality or a wonderful actor. He can be the nicest person you would ever want to meet but he can also be threatening in a vaugue intimidating way....hard to explain here. I am uncertain which way he will go but it will be clever, cunning and deceptive or he will sign the forms, not claim anything and make my life difficult afterwards but not that I or anyone else would know it is him.

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28 Jun 12 #339661 by Marshy_
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Ok this is a short marriage. There are no kids and no property. You didnt meantion debts. But as this is a short marriage, there is no property to split and no assets. Then its just clean. He cant claim on yr pension of any of that nonsense. There is a D form. I cant remember what it is. Sorry. But hopefully Cookie or Karl or one of them will be along in a bit and give you the pucka info. C.

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30 Jun 12 #340134 by Lori321
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It''s horrible lossing that which you loved. He has writen and states he will not contest. Half of me wants to be with him the other half knows it''s futile.

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