Recently separated from my wife of 7 years. We had been together for about 9 years, and for 8 of those years all was good. Recently though things have been awful. She is blaming me, but I can see that there was huge fault on her side too, though she denies it.
Been separated about a month now. She walked out after I refused to leave as I had nowhere to go. She has family close by and friends etc. I just had no place to go, and told her that, then she walked taking my son, and leaving her son, my step son with me.
Its all a bit of a mess, and I am just waiting for the solicitors letter to arrive. I personally want to try and work things out, she doesnt. Hey ho.
At the moment my son is with her at her parents home. She is moving into a new place this friday, though she will not tell me where.
The main reason her son stayed is that he didnt want to move away. He wouldnt see his girlfriend (he is 15 and you know what theyre like at that age) and he would have to share a room with my son. He currenty has a one bunk Hilton in my house with all mod cons.
PLus I think she liked the idea of having someone watching what I am doing. She had accused me of being controling, which was utter tosh, and in fact she had been the one who controlled me in many ways.
After this week its probably going to become nasty. I can expect various demands from her which I am not going to be able to meet financially.
To be honest its only been a month and he will be gone by the end of the week. I am not that petty.
What I am most concerned about is the mortgage. And child support payments. Its a joint mortgage, which I am paying. Half of which should be paid by her, though she never did.
That is what I mean by nasty. She will no doubt demand maintenance payments for my son. Which is fine, except it would break me financially. Its all a bit complex I am afraid, the lawyers would need to sort it all out.