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04 Jul 12 #341216 by Now Gone From Wiki
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Hello everyone.

Last Thursday (28th June) my wife left me suddenly taking our 11 year old son with her. I had no warning just one text to say she''d left and a second on Friday to say that, "You treat me like a servant and I can''t talk to you." After that radio silence. She also got a new phone, turned her old phone off and also changed her Facebook status to ''single'' and her name to her Maiden Name.

She won''t tell me where she or my son are. We also have a 25 year old son who had sided with her.

Two months ago she had her thyroid removed and I think this may be driving it but whilst she is not talking I am in limbo.

I don''t think anyone else is involved and don''t know if I am looking at a ''blip'' or the ''end''. I don''t know if tomorrow she will call and say ''I want to come back'' or if the post will bring a ''get out of the house'' letter.

It feels really bad at present with my emotions all over the place. Part of the reason for her feeling ignored is that I have been worrying about money and working harder to ensure we had a roof over us.

She left with no money (we don''t have any at present), but took £400 worth of food, playstations, DVDs, games, clothes etc. She also left her car. Seems she has not been taking my son to school.

Today I got the police involved as her Doctor suggested she may have some illness associated with her operation and they reported back later that she was fine although aren''t saying where she is.

There is no violence, no infidelity, no mental abuse, drink, drugs or anything else involved and there was no warning or discussion.

Last Thursday I was getting our lives back on track and this Wednesday evening I am on the brink of collapse.

Welcome and hello to Hell!

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04 Jul 12 #341223 by livinginhope
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Hello.Sorry you have to be here but hope it will help you in your troubles.
If your wife has just had surgery and is so angry with you do you think she may be feeling that you didn''t look after her and support her during this time? She may be finding it difficult to cope and feels overloaded at present.
If you have been having financial difficulties it will obviously have been affecting you both.It''s possible she may feel like talking things over after a cooling off period.In the meantime try and look after yourself as best as you can.

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04 Jul 12 #341233 by Now Gone From Wiki
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Thanks and I hope she does feel like talking. However, she is a very private person but has told everyone she knows about her intention to divorce. Interestingly, she has told everyone except me. I agree we have both been under pressure and I have neglected her but hopefully one day she will realise it was for good reasons and not because I don''t love her.

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04 Jul 12 #341234 by afonleas
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So sorry that you are here but welcome!
maybe things are not as bad as they seem at the minute,and maybe you will be able to work things out!!!hopefully anyway.
Not a lot I can say only offer my support in any way I can,and tell you that we all support each other on this horrendous journey.
Early days yet,try and maintain some contact with her,and remain positive.
Stay Strong

Luv and cwtchs.............Afon xx

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