Hi,just wanted to introduce myself and find some support out there. Recently filed for divorce from my husband of 14 years - (been together for 22 years) - following his affair with one of our best friends, who we had known for 22 years. He ended the affair, came back to me, left again after 8 months of so called trying to make it work. That was in Nov last year. Went straight back to the other woman, told me several times he wanted to come back to me but with no real commitment or signs of love. Finally reached the end of my tether with him, telling it was over and now he has gone back to her, again!!! Feel really *****, angry, sad etc etc. Have two gorgeous children aged 7 and 9. Thought connecting with poeple on here might help me fight the urge to send the ***** angry e-mails. This is of no use as it makes me blame me more for the breakdown in our relationship!!! Aaargh - never saw myself in this place. xx
Welcome. Write the emails but post them as a blog here. Ranting is good for soul and your blood pressure alike. Just don''t rant at him, as no matter how difficult it is you have to stay reasonably civil for the children''s sake.
Explore the site - you will find the support you need here.
Yep, seems like a very common story. Don''t say anything rash that you might regret later or that could be used against you in any way.
Get a doll and stick pins in it, rant on the forum and in the chatrooms, pin up pictures of him and throw darts into it - do anything you can to vent your anger without letting him see how much it has hurt you.
I would like to add my welcome. Betrayal with a friend is a special kind of pain and it runs deep. I know.
The others are right with their advice not to do anything to make a bad situation worse. So what can you do? Just be yourself and remain dignified. Don''t resort to the kind of juvenile behaviour they have perpetrated against you. Rise above them and their sordid affair.
It helped me to consider how pathetic they were skulking around leading a life in the shadows. We were four friends, her husband and I knowing nothing about the affair of course until the end.
Now it''s time to get selfish and think of yourself and the children. He''s made his choice and now it''s your turn to choose what you want for your future and that of the children.
Take good care of yourself as it''s exhausting being brave 24/7.