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11 Jul 12 #342588 by QPRanger
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I''ve posted a few questions over the last couple of days (after registering some time ago) but realise I haven''t done everyone the courtesy of an intro....:blush:

Split up nearly a year ago and STILL nowhere near the end yet.... I find it hard to remember the life I had before all this started....

The first thing that hits you is the shock and even now I''m still not over that. The sadness and guilt seem ever-present as well.

I have thrown myself into my work to keep the demons at bay but you still have to face the loneliness when you get ''home''. And the motivation to earn money to support your family has gone as well....

Biggest lesson for me so far is that trusting implicitly in the legal experts to resolve things gives you no guarantees, lost my Final Hearing in a spectacular fashion so now appealing on my own... scary but I have no money left to do anything else.

There HAVE been positives: the unconditional love and support of my parents and siblings has literally kept me alive to this point and I realise how little effort I made to see them when I was stuck in my unhappy marriage: its so ironic that when you are feeling so trapped and lonely that you push away the people who REALLY care for you!

And the last 10 months have made me realise that I have suffered from depression for quite a while and am now attempting to get myself better. Blokes don''t tend to want to accept they have mental health issues very easily....

I know I drink and smoke FAR too much nowadays and quite frankly wouldn''t care if I dropped down dead tomorrow but I guess that I have survived nearly a year without giving in to my darkest thoughtsso far and I still cling to a bit of hope for the future....I guess I must be stronger than I thought I was...

My advice for what its worth to anyone in a similar situation is to just keep going and never stop believing there MAY be light at the end of the tunnel, however far away it may seem.

Never give up!

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