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He''s wants me back!!!

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27 Jul 12 #345689 by downhearted
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:ohmy:Hi everyone
well its been two weeks since i found out and he left and now he wants me back :blink:
he''s not so happy anymore and it was all a big mistake.....oh and nothing happened between them....yeah right!!!:angry:
He came round twice today to tell me how much he adored me and even tried to put his arms around me....what an ass......can i hate him....i know its not a good place to be but i hate him....how dare he.
I was very calm and didnt say much, i didnt shout, scream or break down and cry, even though i wanted to, wouldnt let him near me and just wanted him to go but I let him talk, when he was leaving he asked if he could call round this evening, i finish work at 8.30.....i said no.
I really dont want him back even though i love him loads, he''s hurt me so badly and i could never trust him again, i adored him and loved our life together and he''s cheapend and tarnished our relationship, made me feel worthless. Oh yes and today is the day that he has to put a deposit down on a house, so you see, hes only thinking of himself, trying to get back in here because he''s too tight to pay rent!! Sorry for the rant xx

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27 Jul 12 #345693 by pixy
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The grass is never greener ... I''ve had this too. I''m not sure which was more upsetting - finding out about ow or his cavalier belief that everything could just be put back where it was.

I really feel for you - this is horrible. ((()))

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27 Jul 12 #345704 by mumtoboys
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you know what, if you made even the slightest move towards him that showed that maybe you still loved him, he would more than likely back away immediately. My ex tried this with me during the second year of our separation, after we had actually divorced and when the reality of it all hit him. I told him we needed to go to Relate and he would need to book the appointment. He made the appointment and two weeks later, I turned up and he didn''t! It''s never been mentioned since.

You sound incredibly strong so well done you - keep him at arm''s length and you''ll protect yourself from more hurt.

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27 Jul 12 #345729 by NoWhereToTurnl
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I had exactly the same after I first found out about OW, my mother was dying & I believed him. It was the worst decision of my life, its as though I had given him Carte Blanche to abuse me in any way he wanted.

On the day my mother died I returned home to find a used condom in the toilet, still the lies continued! The second time of knowing with-out doubt about OW was x 10 worse than the first and resulted in me becoming very ill.

Well done for staying strong and yes it is ok for you to hate him, it is your self preservation kicking in.

Big hug, take care of yourself & stay strong x


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29 Jul 12 #345968 by amefbi
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Once a cheater always a cheater. If its not woman its gonna be money.

The trust will never be there again, checking his mobile, bank statements, his payslips, overtime? late? can I believe him? is it true? Maybe it is my fault? I am to blame? Mentally draining.

My regret today is that I never divorced him 35yrs ago when this happened first time. Today after 40yrs marriage we are in divorce.

He does not deserve YOUR love.

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