should i ask if she has a new relationship?

Hi,
I am new to this. Separated from my wife in January. She is in the marital home and I have moved to a house a mile down the road. we have 3 kids under 12 and we agreed to be amicable. However its getting harder. She has moved on a lot quicker than me - weekends away, a girls holiday( i took the kids away on my own at the same time. i have the kids 3 nights a week. the rest of the time i am working( 2 sites opposite ends of the country). She is very protective of her tim. For example the kids have lots of social activity that i want them to continue so on my nights i run them around etc. on her nights i have to take my son to his football or he doesnt go. result is i have no social life but i am getting jealous that she has. to make it worse for me I think she has another man. i gueess it is about time for her but its too soon for me. Not knowing for sure is killing me but i am not sure if i should ask? Thing is she has made it clear that her life is non of my business. her view is that she gave up her career for me( not true as i always suported her decision) and seems to really hate me now and i am not sure why. kids seem ok but eldest giving her a hard time and now she thinks I have encouraged that(which i havent as i dont want them at the centre) I think i want to clear the air, her to tell me about her new man and to reach an amicable stage or should i ignore all this and just get on with it? She has threatened thsat she can make life harder( kis or money? i backed down from the conversation). sorry for the rant.

Hi, I don''t think you should ask her, you will find out in time anyway and as you say she will say its none of your business. Your curiousity is natural but knowing is not going to help or make anyone feel different.

As far as the children are concerned it sounds as if you need to work out a contact schedule that works for all. Do you work weekends? If not alternating weekends may allow you a bit of time for yourself? Is there another football parent who could take and bring your son back on occasions?

Think you are right, it would only lead to more questions. i dont work weekends but the football is difficult as my son plays for a professional team therefore there isnt another soccer psarent nearby. this also means that it is a real strain to get him to games. i am worried that if i have only one weekend then on the other weekend his football will suffer.

Hi

Answer 1 question for me, other than curiousity, what will knowing acheive or change? Probably nothing, other than you feeling even more hacked off that she appears to be getting on with things when you think you''re not.

So my answer, is dont bother, easier said than done i realise. Maisy is correct though, if she is in time you will find out anyway.
Also by asking her (or prying around others) she will assume that it bothers you, im guessing its not something you want her to think even if its the truth?
Miss x

Thanks. You are right. I haven''t enquired or even hinted that I. Might be curious. I guess over time this all gets easier anyway.