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04 Oct 12 #359238 by SaneButterfly
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Hi there,

My name is Fiona and I am 24. I have been in a relationship with my partner for 18 months, he is still married.

His wife walked out on him with no explanation over 3 years ago now. It was literally a case of she woke up one morning declared that she no longer loved him and packed her stuff and walked out. She did attempt to reconcile with my partner once a few months later because she thought he was back earning money and wanted back in. My partner saw through it and rejected her. She is now engaged to a new man and had a child with this new partner back in 2010. She has made no effort to initiate a divorce and my partner has not had the inclination nor the money to start proceedings himself.

Now, because our relationship has become a serious one, it needs to be sorted and that is why I am here, to seek out some advice before he starts proceedings. See if we can get some questions answered and also get an idea of costs.

There are no children between my partner and his wife, the property the shared as a couple is Council owned, my partner is disabled and unable to work so there is no income to speak of. What is my partner at risk of having to give her? Is she entitled to anything?

His wife made a verbal agreement when she left that she would pay for all expenses related to the divorce, can she be held to that or not? I am unsure because it was only a verbal agreement and it was some years ago now.

Any advice, tips or answers would be greatly appreciated. Also, I am pretty useless at forums so I apologize if this is in the wrong place or something.

Thanks for any help we get for our situation.

Fiona :-)

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04 Oct 12 #359247 by WhiteRose
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Hi Fiona,

Welcome to Wikivorce.

Divorce needn''t be an expensive process - the only thing that is required to make a divorce inexpensive is ............. to agree.

The only time costs escalate is when one or both parties do not agree.

If your new partner and his stbx agree on divorce and finance split - then you can use the site''s fixed price offer £279 (plus Court fees) - for around £700 he could be divorced with a Clean Break - even better if she splits this with him, you can''t hold her to her offer to pay for everything - a verbal agreement is not worth anything.

WR

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04 Oct 12 #359254 by esox11
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Sounds like it should be a prime target for the under £500 divorce to me.

Best way forward is to avoid confrontations, dont get petty about possesions and agree to move on to your better lives.

Says he... having all sorts of problems! Dont do as i do... do as i have learnt i should have done!

Best of luck

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05 Oct 12 #359515 by SaneButterfly
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Thanks for the advice guys.

The main problem I am having at the moment is getting my partner to start divorce proceedings. Also, because she walked out on him and left him with no income and basically caused him to get into debt my partner wants to try and seek some kind of financial compensation from her.

I have tried to explain it would just drag things out and cause unneeded hassle but he won''t listen

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05 Oct 12 #359519 by Serendipity100
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As Esox just said, this is a low income case, wife has child with new partner, husband in new relationship.. What assets were there in the marriage? I really do not think worth pursuing the AR route - divorce itself can be done relatively cheaply and by self- repping. No idea why your partner hestitant. Not for me to comment on. Hope this helps though

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05 Oct 12 #359520 by Serendipity100
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PS - you may be better off posting under ''relationships'' henceforth but this site is great at supporting each other. I can''t help you anymore, but suggest you post in there for support. Ok? Bye

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05 Oct 12 #359538 by esox11
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Seek knowledge and guidance from this site but be sure the person you speak to is qualified to advise. Good luck xx

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