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27 Jun 12 #339415 by wmorris2
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If she had any brains she''d save that £100 a month and have a fecking good hol.

But let''s not talk about havin brains!.

You stick by your guns.. grr fecking harridan!

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27 Jun 12 #339483 by sillywoman
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You are a good man Pete.

Do you not deduct for the weekends the children are with you?

Have you a mesher on the house, because if you have not you sure got a bad deal.

Stop paying the £100 extra, and you can then use the money to treat the children yourself.

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27 Jun 12 #339487 by somuch2know2
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Yes.. the guilt trips are already starting and I havent even gotten my Absolute. her side is still dicking about with signing the charge contract.

I have had the joy of moving into essentially a house share in order to service my debts but my ex is thinking that because my rent and travel have reduced significantly she can tap me for more money.

I think you need to call her bluff. there is no way she is NOT going to pay for daughter to go. And your daughter seems old enough to see the lifestyle you live, and the one mummy dearest leads and put the pieces together.

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27 Jun 12 #339513 by wmorris2
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I know what u mean I had to rent a room in my own house to do that. It sucked so I left.

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27 Jun 12 #339521 by hawaythelads
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So the text messages just kept on coming today because she''s so feckin desperate to make me pay.
I had my daughter over last night and she told me she knows that mum is just desperate to make me stump half just so that she doesn''t.Anyway I told her look if push comes to shove and the harridan really does make you pay half I''ll reimburse you babe but I''m trying to make your mother see a point that it''s not right to keep feckin off down the pub leaving you two home alone spending like a sailor and then pleadin poverty whewn it''s summit for you.

So here''s the texts today.
8.30 Harridan to me
Daughter has told me that she will pay half towards this trip . I think it''s appalling that you tell a 12 year old that you can''t find £350 between now and next year . And with regards to the Maintence if anything you should be paying more seeing they only come over to you two weekends a month . You was quick enough to take it away when son stayed with you for a month . I never ask for any extra for daughter . It''s seems to be ok for son to rack up. Xbox bills and get away with it.

Me to harridan
Sent: 27 Jun 2012 08:36
Subject: how much does a large glass of...

How much does a large glass of wine cost remind me?
You are in receipt of £400 a month cm if you can''t budget £60 a month out of that in preference to continuing your social life that''s your failing.
When you''re a pound note in front of me for providing for them kids financially then you will have earnt the right to criticise.

Harridan to me 08:57
Subject: I can budget perfectly well thanks...

I can budget perfectly well thanks . That''s why the children get to do things and go away with me. You spend very little time money and effort on them ( daughter contacted you herself to arrange to see you. As an adult that should be your responsibility !! less than £10 per day per child does not go far re maintenance . I never ask for any extra and what I spend my money I earn on is none on yr business . Same as your life is none of my business . Regarding your flat and your ironing and laundry services . I am not interested in what you do . was just asking for half of the school trip for daughter as we had done the same for son . You are such a bully,daughter is prepared to take it out of her own money rather than have the confrontation with you.

Me to harridan

Sent: 27 Jun 2012 09:30

Again you are already in receipt of my half of the money.I''m not prepared to engage with you when as you have through your whole life completely ignore the fact that you prioritise your social life and the absurd levels of spending that entails entirely on yourself, and again when its something for the kids u still want more money out of me.
eg how much did Liverpool cost how much did Cornwall cost how much did Ireland cost how much did France cost all trips taken without the kids and that''s just the recent ones .
Where you are correct on one point is how I choose to spend my money is mine to make as I earn it entirely myself and don''t ask for any extra from you ever because its for the kids.
My observations on your life style is that historically you have pursued the pub to the detriment of the children often leaving them home alone from the ages of 6 and 9 even!! I do not approve therefore when asked to put more money in your pocket I will refuse.
I''m sure in your brain you will completely disregard validity of that position because you never have addressed the issue. Budgetting means spending money in different areas, you are already in receipt of my half of the expense within the cm and you should consider what that says about you morally if you then take that money off a 12 year old girl the next weekend away you are on quaffing a vat of wine or down the new inn or the greyhound pub!!

Ex harridan to me

Received: 27 Jun 2012 09:51
Subject: my life is none of yr business and...

my life is none of yr business and I am certainly not going to entertain your txts for the sake of £350 for your daughter . Shame on you

Me to ex harridan
Sent: 27 Jun 2012 10:06
Subject: Agreed so don''t keep expecting me...

Agreed so don''t keep expecting me to keep financing it

Ex harridan to me
Received: 27 Jun 2012 10:05
Subject: yes you need to pay up for her too...

yes you need to pay up for her too . You are the other parent . The Maintence covers day to day not extras!

Ex harridan to me again!!!

Received: 27 Jun 2012 10:08
Subject: The sad part of it is has nothing...

The sad part of it is has nothing to do with what income I have or what income you have . It''s about paying towards a school trip that daughter had chosen to go on , just highlights what a bad parent you are . I want daughter to go and certainly don''t begrudge paying for her

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Sent: 27 Jun 2012 10:25
Subject: Still no acknowledgement of your...

Still no acknowledgement of your prioritising the budget on your social life.I will engage no further with you other than to say not at my expense.also it makes you feel better to project your behavioural and moral failings onto me. you are an habitual bully selfish and spend an obscene amount of money on you whilst always restricting it to the kids.

Then nothing for two hours
until......12.46 an email with a payment receipt for the deposit and this message

ex harridan to me
Find receipt for Daughter''s trip for deposit . This is not to line my pockets but for her . If you don''t contribute a penny . Last resort she will have to pay some herself if you choose to be that mean . Let me also remind you of who has taken them away in December , feb half term and will be taking them away in the summer and October . Paid by me .
I have not had to fund my own trips without them . That had been paid by someone else as you seem so interested

Wise up and be fair

I think the problem for the harridan is I might be actually about to take her advice....Wise up and be fair!
That''ll mean the bank of His Royal Hawayness closing for free payments to the harridan and Bazza!!

You see all you lot thought you had problems.This is why I am self appointed King of wikiworld so that I can give you an occasional insight into my wonderful world of divorce and when my saddo subjects are at their lowest ebb and feeling despairing they can look to their king point a finger and laugh at me and say yeah it''s bad but at least we ain''t got the harridan!!:blink:

All the best
HRH xx

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27 Jun 12 #339543 by jslgb
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Tell her you''ll gladly pay half of your daughters expenses as it is for you daughter and the reduction in CM you''ll receive of the CSA will more than cover it ;-)

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27 Jun 12 #339603 by Justaparent
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I hope you sign off ''All the best HRH''

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