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things they say when they are leaving you

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27 Jun 12 #339580 by Kitsi
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I am really sorry because I am sure women say shit too but I only have my experience to go on and its weird but like a script has been written that was delivered to my female also divorced or dumped friends.

1. We haven''t got any values or dreams in common anymore
2.Sex is more like a chore than a joy
3. You don''t dress up/make an effort/seduce me
4. You make more of a an effort for your friends than for me
5. You nag me
6. You take me for granted
7. You''re not the woman I married
8.I didn''t want to have an affair- you drove me to it- it made me remember how sweet and kind and loving you could be
9. You''ve let yourself go
10. What do you DO all day
11.You said you didn''t want children and now you do???
12. You drove our wedding like a dumper truck- no wonder my family were worried about me - all I had to do was turn up
13.My dad said if you have the choice of two women, marry the one who is great in bed as you can always take the plain intelligent one out for finner. I should have done what he said.
14. You never do any DIY round the house
15. You don''t watch Top Gear with me
16. Why do you go to bed to read?
Couldn''t you read while I watch Top Gear?
17 Why are you trying to dress so young?
18 Why won''t you let me try axxl sx?
19. Why are there always dramas with you?
20 (asking my friend) Do you know how many people she slept with before we got married? (answer was 8 but we didn''t get married till I was 40)
21 Why don''t you go back and do a Directors job in the City again? You know that financial security is important to me
22 Sex with you is so boring and it used to be so good
23. You don''t understand small cell marketing at all, do you? Why are you not interested in my job? SHE is.
24 Yuo should have looked at my family before you married me- Dad divorced three times, Mum twice, brother three, sister once...
25 This is all your fault. I can live with the drive to work I can live with the STRESS of work- but I can''t live WITH YOU!

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27 Jun 12 #339582 by Lostboy67
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If you want to read some more pearls....

www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Advice...llSh*t-Classics.html


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27 Jun 12 #339608 by Action
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I think the craziest thing my ex husband said on the day he left after 31 years of marriage was: ''I will always love you''. I so wanted to remind him of that phrase at mediation when he was trying to stitch me up financially. It seems that he loved me so much that he couldn''t even be bothered to tell me that he wasn''t happy and had to find sexual gratification elsewhere.

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27 Jun 12 #339618 by wmorris2
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Kitsi wrote:

I am really sorry because I am sure women say shit too but I only have my experience to go on and its weird but like a script has been written that was delivered to my female also divorced or dumped friends.

1. We haven''t got any values or dreams in common anymore
2.Sex is more like a chore than a joy
3. You don''t dress up/make an effort/seduce me
4. You make more of a an effort for your friends than for me
5. You nag me
6. You take me for granted
7. You''re not the woman I married
8.I didn''t want to have an affair- you drove me to it- it made me remember how sweet and kind and loving you could be
9. You''ve let yourself go
10. What do you DO all day
11.You said you didn''t want children and now you do???
12. You drove our wedding like a dumper truck- no wonder my family were worried about me - all I had to do was turn up
13.My dad said if you have the choice of two women, marry the one who is great in bed as you can always take the plain intelligent one out for finner. I should have done what he said.
14. You never do any DIY round the house
15. You don''t watch Top Gear with me
16. Why do you go to bed to read?
Couldn''t you read while I watch Top Gear?
17 Why are you trying to dress so young?
18 Why won''t you let me try axxl sx?
19. Why are there always dramas with you?
20 (asking my friend) Do you know how many people she slept with before we got married? (answer was 8 but we didn''t get married till I was 40)
21 Why don''t you go back and do a Directors job in the City again? You know that financial security is important to me
22 Sex with you is so boring and it used to be so good
23. You don''t understand small cell marketing at all, do you? Why are you not interested in my job? SHE is.
24 Yuo should have looked at my family before you married me- Dad divorced three times, Mum twice, brother three, sister once...
25 This is all your fault. I can live with the drive to work I can live with the STRESS of work- but I can''t live WITH YOU!


No problem. I am sure they also have the "dump the guy tear his kids from him call him a peado drain him for money and claim you dont need him" script in them somewhere too - because that''s only a woman thing!

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28 Jun 12 #339626 by Kitsi
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WHY would you say that to me?
I would never condone that nor think its funny-that would be a terrible thing to do. You don''t know me at all and I find it hard to understand -probably as hard as you do-how or why any decent woman would do that and that''s why I put this in jokes and humour- God know there is nothing funny about divorce per se

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28 Jun 12 #339631 by scaryspice
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Don''t worry Kitsi ,wmorris 2 had a go at me too ,for no good reason.
Just ignore It.

My STBX said I was too organised and not spontaneous .
Part-time job,2 kids ,house to run -
what did He expect !!
Now He complains if I forget to tell Him something about the kids arrangements =
can''t win !!
Also we are not compatible -
apart from the fact OW has 2 dogs - He hates dogs
is a vegan - He loves his meat
doesn''t know anything about cricket - our lives are all about cricket because of both kids
OW is 20 years younger though - hmmmm I guess that makes them compatible ??? !!!

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28 Jun 12 #339634 by fairylandtime
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Kits

I do not (expect & hope) that wrmorris is getting at you personally, one of the good things about this site for me is you see all sides, yours & mine where x left us & without realising we suffered years of emotional abuse & control. & the other side like wrmirris''s.

.I know that sometimes people can be a bit abrupt, this is possibly their way of expressing themselves, & also due to the level of hurt they themselves are feeling.

My x used a lot of your list, constantly, to the point when I believe that he was right & I agreed with him totally ... I was a bad mother (of course), fat, horrible, nasty etc etc.

You are in a bad place now, & early on in this, I am now at the end of the divorce process :woohoo:this has been the hardest thing I have ever been through & I can tell you it is a dark road, but ... It does get better (honest), still have my bad days, still struggle financially but things are more peaceful, happier & lighter now.

Stay strong JJx

& for wrmorris, we are all here to support each other, not to condemn, I know you are angry & you probably have every right, to have the problems re contact that you have is just wrong. Like I have said in other posts I hope we come to a day when there is a minimum amount of contac that the government /law states there has to be for the NRP & then courts work on upping this, no one should ever be kept away from their children due to their x, nor should the NRP abandon the children either. Safe to say as long as there are no child protection issue.

JJx

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